This year has been the busiest one of my college career and it's only been one month. Two jobs, an internship, four classes, sports, and clubs take up most of my time, but I wouldn't want it any other way. It helps me to keep my life organized because I know that I have four hours on Tuesdays and two hours on Thursdays to get my work done. Although, at times I feel like I'm missing out on the fun things my friends are doing.
Being the busy friend leads to getting invited to events less and less. I know it's probably because most of the time I reply with, "Sorry I can't make it, I have work," but that doesn't make not receiving an invite hurt any less. I want my friends to know that I don't just skip out on doing the fun things with them, I just truthfully don't have the time.
My schedule is so different from everyone else's. When I do have free time to do something other than homework, no one else is free. I know it's not their faults, but it really stinks when no one is free when you are. I've learned to spend a lot of time catching up on my Netflix binges. Watching Orange Is The New Black all the way through for fifth can only make the show better, right?
You miss out on the little memories. Sure the big memories of college come from the big events like homecoming, bid days, and football games. However, we all know the best memories come from the little things; dinner together in the cafeteria, spontaneous trips to Starbucks, and random adventures to new places. Being busy means that nothing can be spontaneous, so it's hard to be a part of these memories. I have to plan everything ahead of time. Wanna get coffee with me? Does Tuesday at 3:00 p.m. work well for you? If not, we probably won't ever get to go unless it's a midnight run for the caffeine necessary to get me through the night of homework I have ahead.
Don't get angry at your busy friends for not replying to your messages. Sometimes I read a message in the five minutes I have between classes and forget to reply until that night when I'm laying in bed. Don't get angry with your busy friends for not being able to hang out when it fits your schedule. Work with them and schedule friend time. I know it seems weird to have schedule a time to just hang out, but they'll appreciate it because chances are they're feeling really left out.
Don't forget about your busy friends. Don't get so wrapped up in being around the people who are always as free as you that you forget to check on them and see what they're up to. Text them to see how they're doing and when they're free next. They'll love it and you, I promise.
