Dating can be tricky. Dating in college can be even trickier. I was never one to understand when people said, "I'm too busy to date." What makes you so busy that you do not have any time to spare to date someone? Please answer me that.
Do you go to the gym to work out? Do you go out with your friends? What about the Netflix shows you enjoy? Do you make time to watch those as well? If you said yes to any of these questions then you are not too busy to date, my friend. Let me enlighten you.
If you think you are too busy, but really want to make things work out with a person you will find a way! I promise you that. If you are academically busy, you can motivate your partner to do homework too. Spending time with a person does not always have to be extravagant. It can be as simple as working on algorithms together, or studying for an exam! If you are busy with work, your partner will understand and you can work out times to see each other even if it is just for 15 minutes.
A little time spent with the person you like can make your whole day better, even if it is not for a very long time. I personally love little spontaneous dates. They mean more to me because I know the person genuinely cares about me enough to try and see me whenever they can. It is the littlest things that mean the most and show you care the most.
I may not be the love guru, but I know a thing or two about (failed) relationships from personal experience. Nothing makes me angrier than somebody saying they are too busy to date you. People will always make time for the things that they value most in this world. If they can value materialistic type things above you, why are you still with them?! They are not worth sitting and waiting around for if they are always "too busy" doing other things (ex. watching Netflix, going out, etc.).
If a person is not someone you see yourself being with anymore, end it! Do not drag it on, and do not lie to them about why you want to end it. You do not need an excuse to end things. We are all adults here and can handle being broken up with. It can be as simple as, "I lost feelings for you," or, "You drive me absolutely bonkers because you overanalyze everything."
Do not ever use the excuse that you are too busy. The only thing you are "too busy" for is putting work into a relationship.
Make your message clear as to why you do not want to be with someone. I firmly believe everybody needs closure, and if the only excuse you give them is that you are too busy then you are not giving them the proper closure they need. One second of brutal honesty will not kill someone. It may hurt their feelings for a week, but they will survive.
So please stop using the excuse that you are too gosh dang busy!
