There are moments that define you. Then there are moments that shape you. However, in order for these moments to happen, a decision must be made.

People come and people go. This concept took me awhile to grasp due to me caring too much about every single person’s well being that has entered my life. I have learned over the course of the past few years that you cannot change or control others actions or who they are as a person, no matter how much you wish you could. The only element you have control over is yourself, how you act, how you react, and what you feel is the right choice for you.

Awareness is the first step when there is an issue at hand. This issue can vary from person to person, from lack of happiness, purpose, or even meaning in their life. After one has addressed to themselves what feels off, then they have two options; create a change or continue down the same path. One must crave change in order for it to occur. Individuals in your life can influence you, but cannot control your final decision.

After one becomes aware of a variable that is going the wrong direction in their life, they have the choice to deny it or accept it. Denial is difficult to shun away. It could become easy to blame yourself for things that haven’t gone correctly and feel a weight of guilt placed upon your consciousness. There may even be waves of anger and sadness, which could be extremely confusing of how you are supposed to feel. However, once one recognizes that change must occur, acceptance causes reality to unveil itself.

Healing is a process, it is not an equation. Every situation one is faced with in life will have a varying impact on who you become as a person. When faced with negativity, look for the light within the darkness. There are an abundance of lessons one learns throughout their lifetime, which they can either put to use or ignored. At the end of the day, you are your worst enemy and biggest fan. You are your own lifetime companion, so live a life that you would be proud of and do what makes you happy.

With time, troubles of the past become blurred, the present less hazy, and the future a clearer sky of opportunities.