Yesterday I was at lunch with my sister and a few of her friends. Her friend, who I'll call Jason, mentioned how he's going to drop his newest fling because she is a brunette and isn't his type.

"I only like blondes," he said.

My sister is blonde and her two girlfriends we were with have blonde highlights. I was the only fully brunette at the table. It was one of the more insecure moments I've had.

Going to college, you gain some and you lose some. But, I never thought I would lose my confidence.

I was never a girl that struggled with confidence issues. Don't get me wrong, I never thought I was the most gorgeous girl in the room. However, I didn't think the most gorgeous girl in the room was any better than me just because she was gorgeous.

Even in some of my lowest times, I considered myself to be confident. These low times include my senior prom when I had two huge zits on my forehead and didn't have sufficient makeup to cover them up.

One of the things I was looking most forward to in college was to "thrive" even more than my brunette self already had. Why, then, did I wish I was blonde? Where did my confidence go?

We all find out as we grow up that the whole "blondes have more fun" idea is a myth. So, it's not because I was looking for a good time.

I then realized that I didn't want to be blonde. My initial reaction to this loss of confidence was to change myself to become someone I'm not, but really, I just wanted my confidence back.

My routine of eating well, working out daily, keeping up with my skincare routine, and being with the people that make me feel my best is what had always made me feel secure.

At this low time, I texted my sister and told her how I had lost myself. She responded and said, "Then make a change." My motivation to find myself again skyrocketed when my sister used the words I would always say.

So, for those who feel like they lost themselves due to a loss of routine, write a note above your bed of all the things that make you confident, and go do it.