There are a lot of stereotypes about being an only child. Many say we don’t like to share, we don’t get along well with children, we have a hard time getting into and maintaining relationships, and we’re not as social as those with siblings. Although we get a bad rap, being an only child allows for some amazing things to happen.
Personally, I do not identify as an only child. Sure, I don’t have any siblings by blood or the like, but if you’re as lucky as I have been, you have found brothers and sisters elsewhere. My three closest friends have been so, since I was about 10 years old. We’ve had many outrageous adventures together that I’m sure if our mothers knew about, I wouldn’t be here to write this article. You cannot spend that much time with somebody and not form a bond that seems to surpass friendship. They are truly my brothers, and without them, I would absolutely be lost.
When you’re that young, and you begin to develop a sense of self and where you fit in with this world, being an only child can be tough. Not having siblings to confide in and talk about things, that you don’t want to talk to your parents about, can be a very difficult thing. This means that friendships become vitally important to only children. By gaining these close bonds, you begin to experience a sense of kinship and can become very perceptive of those around you. Having somebody to share all of your secrets, fears, and joys with is necessary for people, and as an only child, it is hard to find somebody to share that with.
As my friends and I grew, we saw many changes within our lives: Girlfriends came and went, jobs consumed time, and distance became vast. Despite this, we have always been there for one another. Although many say that only children don’t like to share, I learned about the importance of being selfless for those you love. My friends were able to show me different ways of living, how to talk to people, and how to be social. You are able to be yourself with your friends. You are able to call them at 3 a.m., and have them be there for you, while doing the same for them.
My friends and I have all learned from one another. I can see parts of myself in their personality, as I know they are able to see reflections of themselves within me. We share the same thoughts, can communicate without speaking, and are able to know how one another is feeling, even from miles away. These connections are much deeper than an ordinary friendship, and to me, feels absolutely like a brotherhood.
