In this world, there are not a lot of great things. There's stress, anxiety, depression, poverty, inequality, unhappiness, oppression. If you really wanted to, you could easily look up at the sky, think about all the things that kind of suck in the world, and become a cynic.
Take it from experience.
But what I've managed to learn is that a pessimistic approach to life just isn't useful. It's unproductive. It's inefficient.
A pessimistic approach to life is a waste of time because you spend so much energy thinking about all bad things that are probably going to happen, that you don't leave yourself with the time to make the good things happen. That's why Eeyore was so slow and lethargic all the time, guys. He was always too sad and cynical to move any faster.
With the light of a thousand suns pouring into my brain in utter enlightenment, I decided to be happy.
Nah, it was more like, I was sulking over a pint of ice cream alone in my bed watching Friends reruns, when I realized I was fed up with my own god damn attitude, and I decided to stop feeling sorry for myself all the time.
Let me tell you, it's an incredibly active effort to be happy. When a sad thought floats its way into your mind, you have to stand determined and pull a Gandalf, YOU SHALL NOT PASS. And then, you remind yourself of good things and you make plans of actions to get things done.
An example: My door broke and I was locked out, and I didn't know when I would get back in. They fixed it and let me back in my room, but it was still broken and I would probably find myself locked out again at some point during the week.
Anyone who knows me knows my usual reaction would be to panic. Call my dad and/or brother at least 3 or 4 times asking for what I should do. Pace back and forth across my room. Shove everything I would ever possibly need, plus a few things, into my backpack before I left the room for the day. All while feeling the generic heat of nauseating anxiety coursing through my veins.
Luckily for me, I had already made my happy decision by then, which meant I wasn't allowed to get worked up over it. So, I panicked for about 0.2 seconds, long enough for my brain to come up with the worse case scenario so I could think about how to start preparing for it and coming up with my plan of action.
I'll leave it up to you to handle yourself on a case-by-case basis. My one piece of advice will be to recognize that if the sky isn't actually falling, please try not to raise holy-hell in your mind that it is every time something goes wrong.
But in terms of general happiness, I've been inspired by a play by Duncan Macmillan that I watched at the beginning of the year to look at the little things. Find your happiness in all of the smallest of things, in Every Brilliant Thing. In this play, Duncan made a list of all the best things that he'd seen or come across in his life. All the little things that filled him with a feel-good fuzzy feeling inside.
For your intense reading pleasure, here are a few of my brilliant things:
- Dogs
- Holding the door open for someone and hearing them say thank you
- Someone holding the door open for you
- A smile from a stranger
- When a car stops to let you cross the road
- When you wave at the car and they wave back
- The sound of high heels on pavement
- When your high heels don't rip up your feet
- Plays
- Ann Arbor squirrels
- Banana Pancakes by jack johnson
- Not capitalizing people's names
- Having a full Calender
- Having full battery
- When my friends call me rebo
- When my friends call me riy
- When you sit next to a friendly person in lecture
- Stickers!
- Learning the entomology of a new word
- Using "entomology" properly
- Laughing with your friends
- Saying/doing stupid shit and having other people do it back to you
- Seeing your crush's smile
- Learning your crush's laugh
- Feeling safe with a group of people
- Bonding over TV shows
- Backpacks
- Discovering new arm muscle
- Making eye contact and it not being awkward
- Blowing off homework to hang out with friends
- Spontaneous plans to hang out with friends actually working
- Planned plans to hang out with friends actually working
- The song Lucky from the Ohio ad because it feels like happiness
- When you think he's staring at you from across the room, even though he's probably not
- When you have a good hair day
- When you think you have a good hair day, even when it's not
- Taking your bra off at night
- Being able to fart as loud as you want because no one's around
- When Apple releases an iOS update
- Finding the right words to say something you've been wanting to say for a while
- Finishing an odyssey article quicker than you expected to
- Meeting up with old friends and feeling like you can pick up where you left off
- Hearing someone speaking Hindi and instantly looking up because it's like a call, and then remembering what Kreinbring said about that kind of thing
- Remembering random Kreinbring-isms
- When it's unexpectedly warmer out
- Walking into air conditioning when it's too hot out
- Falling asleep on top of your homework because that's the best sleep you'll probably get whilst a student
- Knowing your way around a new city
- Feeling better after crying
- You are my sunshine
- The sun setting behind Palmer Commons
- The way mojo looks at night through my window
- Chocolate milk
- Sharing chocolate with your best friends
- Learning about new music from friends
- Listening to someone talk about how much they love something
- Ravi Shankar’s sitar
- The song Ragas in Minor Scale
- The song Location
- Wearing flannels
- The first snow of the season
- The word “cookbook”
- My GSI, Elird’s hair
- The law library
- iMessage on Mac
- Chipotle
- Learning about Tagore’s poetry
- Shreya Ghoshal's voice
- Getting paid
- Heartbeats, because you know you're alive
It would be really fun if we added to this list. Go on, add as many as you can think of!