I have been where you are. I know the pain of losing someone that you thought you would never lose. I understand the stomach churning, heart wrenching feeling when the person you thought you would be with forever decides they don’t want you anymore. You feel as though you are suffocating and you can’t breathe. Trust me, I get it. You are not alone.

Have Your Voice Heard: Become an Odyssey Creator

You put years of memories into one person, enjoying every moment with them, knowing that is how you want to spend your forever. You buy them all kinds of gifts to show them your appreciation of all that they do. You rearrange your schedule so you can make sure you see them whenever you can. You spend all your time either with them, or doing something for them. You gave your all.

Here’s the thing: Don’t beat yourself up. Don’t sit there and mourn over the person you thought they were. They aren’t the person that they fooled you into thinking they were. As messed up as that is, the sun still comes up the next day, and you are alive. Thank God because every day is a new beginning, a reason to start over and find you again. Just breathe.

Even though you won’t believe me, after some time, you will start to be you again. You find the things that you love to do, you find the people that you love to spend time with, and you find yourself. It makes everything worth it at that point. All the pain, the heartache, the late-night crying yourself to sleep, the depression….everything is worth it when you find YOU.

I learned the hard way to never let someone have the power to take your personality away from you. Do the things you love to do, spend time with your friends (without your partner), and pursue your dreams. It will be well worth it.

You are worth so much more than you are feeling right now. You deserve to be treated with the utmost respect, with undying love, with reciprocated feelings. So don’t settle. Find your worth, find yourself, and never lose your faith.

God has this all planned out for you. No need to worry, to fear, or to stress. Fortunately, we have someone on our behalf, making sure that that right person finds us. Until then, know who you are and all you want to be. Let God take care of the rest.

Keep your head up and stay strong. One day you will breathe without them, and it will feel amazing.

Take a deep breath. You got this.