Everyone knows breakups suck.

One, or probably both, people get their hearts broken and life feels like it’s crashing down around you. However, the silver lining of a breakup is the new hair. Yep, the hair. Not getting stronger or learning life lessons, but getting that cute new style you were too afraid your ex wouldn’t like.

As cliche as it sounds, changing something like your hair after a breakup is therapeutic and literally an instant way to make yourself feel better.

Even though we are ultimately strong, independent, women, it is natural to value your loved ones opinions, even when it comes to hair. We’ve all been there, where a guy says “I like your hair better *insert straight, curly, short, long, blonde, brown, the list goes on.*” Because of that, we may shy away from drastically changing what our boys know and love.

Once the relationship is over though, and you have the “screw him, I’m going to cut my hair/dye my hair platinum/stop putting heat on my hair” epiphany, life changes for the better. You get a new ‘do, a confidence boost, and a new style that will make all the cute, single boys turn their heads.

Sure, you’ll still miss your ex-boo thing, and nothing physical can fix what’s been broken, but it’ll sure as hell make you feel better. You may even find your new favorite style that way, I know I did.

For as long as I can remember I’ve had long hair, like, long.

Down my back, got stuck in elevators and car doors kind of long. It’s super thick and wavy, so I thought long was better and it looked decent natural so I wasn’t too concerned about changing it.

Until, at least, my ex-boyfriend told me he LOVED my hair long, and straightened.

One month after we broke up, I cut 10 inches off of my hair, balayaged it, and never looked back. I’ve embraced it natural and I don’t think I could ever have long hair again.

It may seem silly, but the change in myself made me look at the situation in a new way, too. It’s the little (or maybe the drastic) things in life that can really cause a shift in perspective and that’s just what the doctor ordered after a bad breakup.

Just do it, it’s hair, it’ll grow out and grow back. I promise you won’t regret it, or at least can’t permanently.