I have found myself to be a person who people come to for advice when it comes to their relationships. At times I get annoyed and at other times I am totally happy to help. In the last week one of my friend's ended their relationship. Instead of listening to some of my advice they decided to not and now they have ended up in an all out war with their ex. This could have been avoided if they would have listened to the few tips that I want to give to everyone right now.
The first major tip that I have for everyone is to take the high road. Relationships ending can either be a good thing or very nasty. So far I have not seen a middle ground between that, but I will not be surprised if there is. Taking the high road means when they go low, you go high. (Thank you Michelle Obama). If they are trying to get back at you with nasty text messages, snapchat posts, or even Instagram posts they want to get you angry. They want to see a reaction. The best thing to do is just ignore it. The same goes for you, DO NOT send nasty messages, snapchat posts, or Instagram posts to that person. Trust me it will not end well.
The next tip is to take a break from your phone and spend more time with friends and family. Instead of going on social media reach out to the people who matter to you the most. It is important that you spend time reflecting on yourself and all the time that you now have. It will help with the emotional part of the breakup and also help reconnect yourself with your friends and family. It is important to note that spending time looking at your ex's photos and social media is not going to help with the problems that will arise later.
The next tip is to delete the photos and other things that you have taken with your ex on social media and even on your phone. Try to get rid of the reminders and other things that will cause you to be "triggered." You need to get rid of those reminders and start a new part of your life without that person. This is very important otherwise it will slow down the healing process that you need to go through. This tip also states that I do not recommend that you have a rebound, unless you feel it is absolutely necessary. Otherwise I suggest that it is not the best thing to do.
All in all it is your life and you do what you want. If I had to recommend one thing to you would be to take the high road. It will help in the long run and also help you not getting into nasty situations like my friend is in right now. Good luck to all those in relationships and I wish the best to people who are just getting out of one!
