Breakups are never fun for anyone. I know you’re thinking “duh, whoever thought a breakup was fun?” but bear with me- I have a bigger point to make.

When you invest any level of devotion and time to someone, you will inevitably become attached to them. It is completely natural and comes with any relationship, whether it be romantic or even platonic. So naturally, if you have to endure a breakup (which let’s face it, at one point or another we will all face a breakup), it is hard for both parties.

Regardless of the reasoning behind the split, there is a lot to be learned from a breakup, and a lot of good that can accompany what could easily be one of the hardest moments in your life.

That being said, let’s at least try to make others’ breakups a little easier.

After my personal experience, the hardest part about breaking up (besides losing someone you’re close to), is the aftermath that surrounds others.

Yes, you heard me - the hardest part about my breakup has been dealing with OTHER people.

Of course it is hard losing someone you’re so close to, however, not everything is meant to work out. That is normal, okay, and even understandable. Sometimes two people just aren’t meant to be together, but that doesn’t mean that it’s easy for anyone.

I’m tired of hearing about the “winner” of the breakup because let’s be real, in the end, both people will win, far down the road, when they realize truly where they are supposed to be.

Besides that, there is no winner, not initially and not ever. Also, let’s stop trying to strengthen the divide by taking “sides.” Whether or not the breakup was amicable, mutual, or none of the above, it is no one’s place to add insult to injury by trying to start a war.

In all honesty, the only two people who should be involved in the split, are the two who were actually in the relationship. Starting FALSE rumors and spending your time talking about the lives of others is no way to better your own life.

How about we leave the rumors and drama in the past, and focus only on improving our own lives and helping better the lives of those who actually went through the breakup.