I hate being mean to people, but it turns out that everyone has their moments of weakness. A moment when something hurtful to someone you love just spills out of your mouth. Everyone has their days where they just need to explode. Everyone has said something bad about someone else in anger in hopes for comfort and agreement. Everyone has cried themselves to sleep. Everyone has taken their emotions out on someone else. Everyone has sat in their room and felt sorry for themselves at some point. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad person if you let yourself slip. Everyone has struggles in their life and everyone deals with it in their own way. Some people take it out on others, some people cry alone in their rooms and others keep it all inside until they have a complete breakdown.

No matter how you deal with your problems, whether it be venting to a friend, exercise or having a glass/bottle of wine, you’re only human. The reality of it is that even the nicest of people will have bad days and say something that may hurt someone else. Everyone will have days, weeks or even months where they feel like the world has just taken a giant shit on them. Everyone will have a time where they are hurting and they do or say something that they shouldn’t. Are you a bad person if you just freak out one day? No, I don’t think so.

Deep down we all know that we are lucky for the life we have and the people in it, but feeling bad for ourselves is something we all do. Yeah, we all think we can hold it together and be positive. “Just breathe.” “Think before you say things.” Yeah okay…. that’s all nice in writing, but how often does that actually happen? It’s nice to think you will be calm when you want to break down, but the reality is we all freak out, we all throw shit and cry to our friends. We are all human and sometimes the stresses our crazy world throw at us are just too freaking much for us to handle.

If you are having a week where a bottle of wine and a tub of ice-cream are the only things you really want to be around, I’m telling you that’s normal. Go ahead, cry, scream and throw something. Tell someone how pissed you are at someone else. Sit in your room and cry. Are these the best ways to deal with your emotions? No, but they are human, and they are okay.

In the end we will all be OK. This dark period of our life is only temporary. We will all get through this bad time that we are having, and we will pull ourselves together because we know it could be worse. We know we have friends that are there for us. We know that we can’t control all these stressors, and so we move on. It isn’t selfish to throw yourself a mini pity party and just freak out about life every once in a while. Your friends will be there when you’re ready to act sane again and no one will judge you for having a meltdown. Just because you are frustrated with the events life has chosen to throw your way doesn’t mean you’re bad person. We all breakdown sometimes, we are human.