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Break Up With Your Fake Friend

You gotta go your own way.

Kelsey Hirsch

Apr 30, 2019

Kennesaw State University

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Hopefully not everyone will have to do this within their life, but if it's necessary to help yourself, it's necessary to leave them behind. I'm talking about one of your best friends of course. In no way do I see this as selfish as I once did; I needed to start thinking for me and that is exactly why I took action. Removing someone you thought loved and supported you, but instead was manipulative and condescending, is an unbelievable weight lifted off your shoulders.

As I have experienced this and also overcome this I'm here to explain to you the red flags I ignored. This is different for almost everyone, however, some of these traits reoccur throughout every fake best friend.

They'll be fake from the start

They'll first come off as kind and supportive, which is how you will remember them, but they will slowly turn into a manipulator. You may or may not realize their change in behavior, but sure enough it will happen.

They'll try to change you

Just like a bad boyfriend, they will make you question everything unique about yourself. They will make you into a prototype of what they like and expect in a friend.

They will try to control you

Similar to trying to change you, they will take up all of your time and leave you to feel as though they are more important than anything else, regardless of how big of a priority it is.

They will share your secrets

This is an easy one to determine. If you trust them, which you probably would if they were your best friend, you would most likely share most situations that go on in your life. They will expose them, no matter how secret they are supposed to be.

They will make you believe all your other friends are awful

You'll go out and meet new people and really click with them. They will come make sure you know they are the better friend and even make sure to let you know repeatedly that "They are a great friend."

They will blame you for everything

If something arises in your friend group and your "best friend" blames you every time, they are not the friend for you.

They are hypocritical

If you do something that probably wasn't the best decision, but they do it all the time, it shouldn't be ok, but they shouldn't bash you for it if they do it too.

They'll pick anyone and everyone over you

Your old news they'd rather hang out and do anything else than hang out with you.

They will continue to knock you down

Instead of building you up, they will make you feel hopeless and unworthy. Stand strong and leave the situation.

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1. When course schedules are released and you have a conflict between two required classes.

2. When there is only one section of a popular course.

3. Receiving the 18,000 emails reminding you to register ASAP.

4. When you need to see an advisor, but they are too busy/unresponsive.

5. Trying not to dress like a bum for your appointments with your advisors/department heads.

6. When you have a perfectly planned out schedule, and one class ruins it.

7. Carefully moving things around to accommodate a different class/section.

8. Waking up at 6:00 a.m. for your enrollment time.

9. Concocting a new schedule at your enrollment time after your original plan gets changed.

10. Getting into a class and filling the last available seat.

11. When all of your classes finally go through.

12. Realizing that you forgot a class that was a pre-requisite for everything else.

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1. When you have to provide an "interesting fact" for your first day ice-breaker.

2. When your professor is babbling on and on in his lecture.

3. When you edit your friend's paper and they get an A.

4. When it's 2 AM and you remember you have a test tomorrow.

5. When you finish taking the test and you're pretty sure you failed...

6. ...but then you get the test back and somehow passed.

7. When you've been up for 12 hours straight writing a paper.

8. And then you manage to stay awake in class the next day.

9. When you have to butter up your professor for an extra credit opportunity.

10. When you're assigned a group project.

11. And your group-mates are trying to chat about life instead of the assignment.

12. When it's your last class of the day and you're about to go home.

13. But then you remember rent is due tonight and the anger comes back.

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