It takes absolutely nothing to be kind and respectful toward everyone. You would think it would be easy to extend this kindness to children, but I, unfortunately, had to see several adults criticizing young boys for dressing up as princesses.
Photos taken from the "Boys Can Be Princesses, Too Project" began circulating Twitter recently because the simple concept of anyone being able to dress however they like still managed to be too much for grown adults to handle. I saw comments saying these boys being forced to wear the princess dresses and that raising children without gender roles has gone "too far."
Not only is it idiotic to say the boys were forced to wear those dresses when it clearly states on the project's website that they were not, but its also idiotic because it is not impossible for a boy to enjoy dressing in clothing that is seen as feminine. Just because you have allowed yourself to be brainwashed into believing that being a boy means you must only dress "masculine" does not mean that this is everyone's reality.
Allowing a young boy to dress like a princess is not an example of the dismantling of gender roles going "too far."
How is anyone negatively impacted by a boy wearing a dress? It is just an article of clothing. The only thing that is harmful is shaming a child for the way they want to dress because it suggests that there is something wrong with them. We should all be encouraging one another to not subscribe to society's ideas of what a boy should be and what a girl should be.
We should also not subscribe to the idea of the gender binary.
If my future son were to tell me that he wanted to dress up like Rapunzel, I would go buy him the dress.
And if my future son were to tell me that he wanted to dress up as Spider-Man, I would go buy the costume.
No one is going up to their son and saying "You have to wear this princess dress whether you like it or not because I want to be progressive." Allowing young boys to dress as princesses is not about "pushing a feminist agenda," it's about loving and supporting your child.
It should not be seen as something negative to want to teach your child about feminism.
As a parent, you are supposed to let your child express themselves however they choose. And let me just cut off anyone thinking "Oh, so if my child wants to express themselves through murder, I should let them?" because I know some of you will be itching to say it since I saw similar comments underneath the photos of the project. Making these kinds of comments shows how purposefully dense and hateful you are because I'm sure that we can all understand that killing someone is not the same thing as a boy wearing a dress. The only reason you want to equate them is that you want to protect toxic masculinity.