Usually when people body shame the people they care about it is either unintentional or to "help" them, but what they are doing is unintentionally hurting that person. Sometimes we say things that we do not mean to be taken in a negative way, because they sound nice but just because something sounds nice or helpful does not necessarily mean they are. Here are a few body shaming phrases that shouldn't be used and why:

1. "Stop calling yourself fat, you're beautiful."

Being fat is not that same as "ugly" and although you aren't meaning to say that, you are. When someone calls themselves fat they are not saying that they do not find themselves beautiful or attractive. Also, they may use the word as empowering so if they want to refer to themselves as fat in a loving way, let them.

2. "Have you lost weight? You look really good."

This is also another way of saying fat is ugly. It is like saying that the person looks better now they have slimmed down some. They are now thinking that in order to stay looking attractive they have to continue to loose weight.

3. "I lost ___ pounds by doing this, you should try it!"

People do not like hearing about others success as an attempt to make them do something. This phrase can work as a trigger to some people because hearing the numbers makes it real and comparable.

4. "I feel so fat."

People that are fat are trying to reclaim the word fat and others like it to be a good thing, so when people that are not overweight use the word it is like taking that away from them.

5. "You need to eat a burger or something."

On the opposite side of things, when skinny people are told that they are "too skinny" or "need to gain weight" it is just as offensive. Just as it is hard for some people to lose weight, it is hard for others to gain weight.

6. "You're still really pretty/attractive!"

This again is like telling the person that being skinny or fat is a bad thing. They begin to think things like, "Would I be more attractive if I were skinnier/curvier?"

7. "Have you ever thought of going on a diet and exercising?"

Diet and exercise it's that easy, right? Wrong. It can actually be really hard for some people to change the way they eat or to start exercising. They are both lifestyle changes that are not easy to adjust to physically or mentally.

8. "You're like a twig."

Again, skinny shaming does exist and it can be just as hurtful. Being called a twig is not the same as being called pretty although it might seem that way to some people.

9. "Your hips are starting to widen. It's not a bad thing, you're becoming a woman."

Since when does having wide hips or not make you a woman? It doesn't. There are plenty of women that have perfectly shaped hips and others who don't and that's okay. The shape of your body does not determine if you are a woman or not. Women come in all shapes and sizes.

10. "That actually looks really good on you."

Most women face their biggest insecurities when trying on clothes. Being told that something "actually" looks good on you is not a compliment and is actually more of an insult. This is like saying that you didn't expect it to look good on them because of their body.

So before you say something to someone about their body, think. Body shaming exist in many different ways and you never know what people have going on in their life or their mind and you may end up hurting someone you really care about.