For those of us who are uneasy about our bodies, sex can be incredibly daunting, intimidating, and even terrifying. You are worried that what your partner sees, hears, feels, tastes, or smells won't be up to his standards and will scare him away. But I'm here to tell you that the insecurities you have are not nearly as obvious and bothersome as they feel. Your man won't even bat an eye if any of these ten things you are uncertain about are revealed during sex:
1. Whether or not you shaved perfectly
So you've got a little stubble left behind from last night's shower, and now you're convinced that your man is going to up and leave as soon as your panties come off. …really? I can promise you that he isn't looking over every inch of you in search of a rogue hair. Plus, any man worth having sex with won't judge you for how much hair is left on your body—God knows he's got enough for the both of you.
2. Not having perfectly smooth skin
Shaving bumps, a few patches of dry skin, and acne? All completely natural and all completely out of a guy's mind when he's got you naked beneath or on top of him. He's itching to wrap his hands around whatever he can grab, honey— he definitely won't notice a little redness where not even you can regularly see it.
3. Sweating
A thin bead of sweat on your upper lip or a light coat down your back isn't going to deter him in the slightest. After all, sweating during sex just proves to him that you're always ready to work hard to make him feel good. That should be a turn-on more than anything else.
4. Your "orgasm face"
What matters to your guy is that he has helped you achieve ultimate satisfaction during your time together. He could care less if you come with the uncanny likeness of a fish gasping for air. You came—and he saw and he conquered, and that is all he could have hoped for in hooking up with you.
5. What you're saying
Worried that the sweet nothings you're whispering in his ear are making him cringe in all the wrong ways? Don't be— it's such a pleasure for him to hear his woman tell him about how badly she wants him. Stumbling over your words a bit isn't going to faze him— if anything, he'll be impressed that you kept your thoughts in line for so long.
6. The noises you're making
Unleashing a passionate moan because you plan on it is one thing… but having an involuntary wheeze or gasp escape you in the heat of the moment can be another if you're self-conscious about how you sound. But think about it: your man most likely makes noises akin to those of a dying walrus, so why can't you?
7. What your hair and makeup look like
Trust me, your tousled bedroom look is definitely appealing to the man who's got you grasping at his sheets and begging for more of him. Where you see smeared eyeliner and a matted ponytail, he sees a sexual goddess capable of shifting the tides themselves with her every move. You look positively divine and he knows it.
8. If your panties match your bra
…seriously? So what if your panties say "Tuesday" but your bra says "Friday?" He isn't going to notice that your baby blue boy shorts don't exactly correspond with your hot pink bralette. Hell, he hardly knew how to harmonize his own wardrobe until he was out of high school. Just remember that his mother probably shopped for him for a good portion of his life and that his fashion sense is nonexistent. Plus, when he's got you half-naked already, he won't be stopping until you're completely nude, your undergarments tossed to the side and long forgotten.
9. If your tummy is a bit bloated
If you just ate dinner moments before falling into bed together, he'll understand that your stomach isn't going to be as streamlined as it usually is. And if you've got a little bit of pudge, chances are he won't even notice it unless you mention it first. Honey, if he's worth any of your time at all, he will only appreciate your body and admire its womanly curves for how stunning they really are.
10. How your breasts look
Boobs are boobs, are boobs, are boobs. For men, there is nothing more enticing than a pair of naked breasts ripe for the touching and the loving. He isn't studying your anatomy so deeply that he will pick up on the fact that your left is just a tad bit smaller than your right. Nor will he think to himself, "wow, this girl has huge nipples, I can't have sex with her anymore." You're overreacting juuuuust a lot.
Ladies, you have heard this time and time again, but I will say it once more: you are gorgeous all over and deserve nothing less than a lover who will treat you exactly like the princess you are. The imperfections you're obsessing over aren't worth all of your time and energy because, at the end of the day, whoever ends up being yours isn't going to judge you based on how well you shave or if you have a little chub on your hips. Enjoy the intimacy you share with your special someone and focus more on how you feel and less about how you look.
