I know the whole world is on the whole women empowerment movement, but unfortunately ladies, we are doing something wrong that we need to get called out on. Many of us either are just getting out of a relationship, in a relationship or seem to not leave the single status.

Sayings like "give it time" or "love will come when you least aspect it" are always on ladies minds, but what do they really mean. what seems like magical words actually have a method to its madness, so let's investigate the phrase, "Love will come when you least expect it."

First off, a quick disclaimer, I am single and I do have a little trouble finding the right person but aren't we all. I realized that when I started envisioning who my potential boyfriend would be I started creating something physically impossible. I hate to crush your dreams ladies, but sometimes we set the bar too high. This doesn't mean that you are going to find the biggest turd of a boy, but realize that sometimes you need to make a compromise to find the right guy. I always look for someone for ambition, honesty, athletic, funny, but sometimes you need to sacrifice some things to make it work.

Just because he might not have a perfect twelve pack doesn't mean he isn't the guy for you. As long as he treats you right and accepts you for who you are you are off to a good start.

Touching on what I said above, "accepting you for who you are" ladies I need to call us out again. We don't always have perfect hair, our face is not always perfectly contoured and sometimes we control so much that we do not act our true selves around some males we are attracted to. referring back to the phrase, "the when you least aspect it isn't necessarily fate, but when you act yourself. men usually catch you off guard because when your guard is down they can see you for who you really are. Now I know we all incision and wish he would pick you out from the crowd on the night you are wearing your best dress and hair and makeup on fleek, but I guarantee he might find you at the grocery store or maybe even in class.

Reality is, the front you put up might be unapproachable or not a great representation what kind of person you really are. Don't believe me? Usually, events where you meet potential men, usually advertising yourself by only complimenting your strengths or over exaggerating yourself leads to no second dates or relationship status. If you notice you are attracting the wrong men, you may be advertising yourself in the wrong way. Although we wish everything would be perfect, Its good to know that your relationship is built off of trust and honesty. being comfortable around your partner is important and you can't create that bond off of something that is not true.

The moral of the story is don't hide who you are because you are afraid to reveal the true you. Who cares what your favorite kind of music is, or where you like to shop, finding true love will come when you are true to you!