There's a huge difference between being wanted by someone and being respected by someone. Sometimes I think is as women get caught up in the thought of being wanted by someone that we forget to respect ourselves in the end. We allow ourselves to be mistreated, unappreciated and, in the end, broken. All for what? Just to have that nice feeling of attention every now and then?

Yes, having attention is nice. It makes you feels special. It also gives you a sense of confidence in yourself. But there is a huge difference between being wanted by someone and being respected by someone. The difference is that being respected is much more difficult to obtain.

It takes longer for someone to respect another person. It takes someone longer to learn your values, to learn your morals, to learn your standards and your strengths and weaknesses. It takes long conversations with one another and the number one factor about respect, is that a person has to truly care about you on some level to take the time to want to know all about YOU.

Yes, you will have definite satisfaction when someone makes you feel wanted. What you have to remember, is that you shouldn't let that mean anything to you if he doesn't respect you first. Don't be with someone because they can spit out these nice sentences towards you but turn their back and talk to their friends about you like you are a piece of trash. Don't be with someone who cares more about your body than he does about how you'll feel if he doesn't acknowledge your missed call, or how you'll feel if he doesn't remind you that you're beautiful.

Don't let him take the best of you away. Don't give him the chance to leave you feeling used. Unfortunately, it's easy for someone to walk out on you when they never respected you or intended to stay with you in the first place. It's fairly easy for them to forget about you when they don't appreciate anything about you.

In order to gain respect, you have to respect yourself first. Sure, it's definitely going to be flattering when a guy likes you. But don't let his words soak in and mean anything to you until he shows you true respect. If you let him in, you're ultimately showing the world that you have little to no respect for yourself.

If you find a "take you to my place kind of guy" instead of a "show you off to my mama kind of guy," kick him to the curb. Show yourself a little self-love and you will eventually see the value that you have inside. I promise that the attention that someone gives to you isn't worth the torture that will come behind it.