Friendship is an essential part of our life, it flourishes the society. Throughout life, we make a lot of friends. The friendship brings happiness in our lives. Friendship is a great way to support, care, talk, listen and help others. It's way to build a deep trust with others. Having a true friend is always a blessing. At least one true friend in our life makes everything easier, who cares about you and they will stand by you in darkest times of your life and support you in every aspect. But, being a true friend to others is the next step in making a change in our society.
There are major key differences between true real and fake friends
- A true friend points out your mistakes but they don’t judge you for the same. They accept you for who you are. They give more importance to friendship rather than your personality.
- They always have your back in every situation.
- They constantly try to keep in touch with you because they care about you and they want to know what is happening in your life.
- They always encourage you in every situation.
- They always make time for you whenever you needed.
- They accompany you even if they are not interested in whatever you are doing.
- You always feel comfortable with them as you do when you are by yourself.
As we know “some friends don’t help but a true friend is closer than your own family” (Proverb 18:24 CEV).
On the other hand, with fake friends, the effort to retain the friendship will be always one-sided. In my experience, I will try to eliminate those people who show following characteristics.
- They will judge you all the time and alter their behavior towards you i.e. being dishonest or ignoring you or maybe both. This is the most important aspect which shows the difference between real and fake friends.
- They will try to embarrass you in public.
- If you meet each other after a long there will be no trace of affection towards you. It simply means that they never cared or they no longer care about you.
- They will never try to contact or hang out with you.
- You don’t feel comfortable to share your secrets with them.
There are a lot of points that shows the difference between being a true friend or fake friend. As stated as “Wise friend make you wise but you hurt yourself by going around with fools” (Proverb 13:20 CEV)
Our practice should be in our heart that how I can be a true real friend to others. This idea will change our thinking in making new friends and finding true friendship in our life with more ease. This practice is to become honest with yourself to improve your personality. It is always better to give rather than receive from friendship. “Treat others just as you want to be treated” (Luke 6:31 CEV)