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Being A Totally Independent Woman Will Hurt You

Three reasons why support is necessary for growth.

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Being A Totally Independent Woman Will Hurt You

So this past week, I went to Paris and loved every single thing about it. The people, the beautiful architecture, the Eiffel Tower, everything was gorgeous. The weather was comfortable and the food was yummy. But the best part about Paris was the people I shared my time with. I was surrounded by a beautiful group of women who shared the same goals, values, and morals as me. These women understood my language; they understood what it really means to live life to the fullest.

Every night, we went to dinner and had powerful conversations. We discussed our “why's": future goals, struggles, femininity, self-care, men, friendships, entrepreneurship, and so many other topics. The first night, my heart was filled, for it was one of the first times I felt understood and accepted. It’s so important to have a community of women that support you and share the same goals and values. A supportive environment is so necessary for growth, and here is why:

First, when a group of people or someone supports you, it challenges you to be become your best. When you are in a supportive environment, you have the natural tendency to want to increase your success in all areas of your life. For example, I have women that support me who are called my mastermind partners. My mastermind partners give me their feedback, ideas, hold me accountable for growth, push me to think deeper, and drive me to the next level. It’s so important that I have that support team to take me to the next level in all areas of my life.

Second, a woman is her best when she is receiving. Receiving is one of best gifts a woman can give herself. When a woman receives support, she is then able to give to others effortlessly. Receiving is a feminine quality. If you are not used to receiving, of course it will take practice. One of the best ways to get into the habit of receiving is to ask for assistance. As women, we were not created to do everything on our own. When a woman does everything on her own, she is serving from the masculine mindset. When a woman is always in the masculine mindset, she can become very exhausted and depressed, which can lead to resentment and unhappiness. Really challenge yourself to start asking for support when you need it and see how you feel receiving.

Finally, having support is uplifting. Think about how much happier you are when people support you. I remember when I graduated from college, my close family and friends showed up at my graduation. That made me so much happier inside that I had people who were proud of me.

Think about what you need to do to put yourself in a supportive environment. Do you need to join a book club or a mastermind group to push yourself to the next level? We are constantly learning and growing; It's only right that we put ourselves in a community we thrive in. Remember that old saying, “it takes a village?” That saying is not only for children, but for adults. It takes a village of our mothers and grandmothers to show us the ropes of life. We have so much to receive in this lifetime, and a village or community is the core foundation of our support.

If you would like to be supported on a personal level, click the link below to schedule a talk with me.

http://bit.ly/2cOeZNu

xoxo,

Chene'

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