I’d consider myself a very nice person. But, I tend to be nice to people who don’t deserve it, or I bend over backwards for people who would probably never do the same for me.
I have a tough time saying no to people when they ask me for favors. I feel bad if I do, so to avoid that gut wrenching, indescribable feeling, I do the favor for them - no matter what it is, or how inconvenient it may be for me.
I don’t have a problem doing favors or helping out close friends, family or people I’m closer with. However, it’s when the people I don’t normally talk to on a regular basis that ask me to do something for them. That is when I start to get iffy on the whole situation and I’m unsure. But, being the people-pleaser that I’ve grown to be, I try to ignore the fact that we are not regularly acquainted, and I proceed to do the favor.
I’m a people-pleaser, which is a good quality at times. However, you need to be careful and make sure you don’t let people walk all over you. When it seems like people are taking you for granted, that is when you need to draw the line.
I’ve come to realize maybe people will do that. They start to take advantage of you. Personally, I sometimes feel like some people take my kindness and forgiveness for granted. They know I’d do anything for them and or forgive them for a situation. They know that I will not say no to them, so they use that to their advantage.
As a person, I need to work on that. There is a fine line between being a nice person and being TOO nice to people, especially the ones who don’t deserve it.
I know the reason I am this way is because I love the feeling knowing that I did something for someone. I made someone happy, or I made something a lot easier for that person--no matter what it may be. I feel like I really helped them out. If I don’t do the favor for them, I feel guilty, like I just ruined their day and made it more stressful or inconvenient for them when in reality, that’s what they might be doing for me. I don’t understand why I feel this way but it's definitely something I need to work on.
Like I said, I'm more than happy to help people out--it's just when I realize the person I’m helping out, may never, or would never do the same for me. That's what gets me. Why do something for someone who wouldn't do the same for you? What's the point? Yes, you are helping them out but being too nice to people who don’t deserve it, isn’t fair to you. That’s something I’ve realized lately. Don’t let people walk all over you, it’s not fair to you. It’s not a fair way to live.
