When thinking of "the one" you always think of someone else. You think of someone who will take care of you, someone who can make you laugh when you're having a bad day, and someone who can make you happy.

What you don't think about when thinking of "the one" is yourself.

Girls, guys, and everyone all around you are looking for that special someone, but in most cases, they are looking for that person for all the wrong reasons. Usually, it goes a little something like this:

Because it's what everyone else is doing.

Because their friends are in relationships.

Because they don't want to be alone.

The person that you decide to bring into your life should not complete you, but instead, compliment you.

You have to learn to be whole on your own because no one in this life is ever going to be able to do that for you. We are so quick to advertise our weaknesses and our hardships when going about finding that person in hopes that that person, by entering into our life, can just come in and make it all better. How can you expect another person to make you happy and see the value in the person that you are, if you, yourself, aren't happy and unable to see the value in yourself?

You have to believe that you are worth waiting for and that the person that you will eventually end up with for all the right reasons is willing to do the same for you.

This takes time. This takes bravery. This takes strength. This takes boundaries. And it takes faith.

Maybe you don't have it all figured out and you don't really know yourself all that well. That doesn't make you unlovable or unwanted by others. You just have to look inward, as scary as it may be, and find out what you're all about. Bringing another person in just for the sole purpose of "fixing" you is not fair to them or to you.

Unfortunately, for girls in this day and age, they get labeled either way. If they want to save themselves for that special person and not mess around and go through heartbreak after heartbreak, they get labeled as a prude and if they mess around, hang around, and have tons of "relationships" over a short span of time, they get labeled as sluts. Whatever you end up doing, know that you have complete control over your decisions as hard it may be to resist temptation and pressure.

You own the key to our heart. You get to decide who gets let in or not.

That also means that you get to decide how much of yourself you want to save for that special person.

If we don't set boundaries and we fail to realize our value on our own, we will end up getting hurt by people that can't see the good in ourselves because we can't see it. After that happens, you don't get to go back and pick up all those broken pieces. You will only have what you were willing to keep and not give away to people that were undeserving of those parts of us.

So, if you need to go find yourself, then go find that and find what makes you tick. Find what makes you tick. Find what makes you want to yell, "Hell yeah!" If you are in a relationship that you know is not serving you anymore or you are in it just because it's comfortable, ask yourself, "Why?" What are you looking to get out of that relationship? Finally, if you are constantly thinking of "the one," look inward and think about what you have to offer the rest of the world, because you are more than deserving of having someone that sees what you are able to see in yourself...on your own.