It's cuffing season, as the kids say, which means it's time to get into relationships to sustain you through the long, cold winter!!
Uh, how about no.
Why should I feel like I "need to" be in a relationship? What, just because it's cold out? No no no, sir. If I'm going to be in a relationship, it is NOT going to depend on the weather.
I always thought the whole cuffing season thing was dumb because it's pretty much fueled by desperation or loneliness which is NEVER how a relationship should start. Anyway, on to what I really wanted to say.
Today's society tends to view being single as a negative thing. Us single people are led to feel like we're not worthy of a relationship when we aren't in one, that we can't keep one because we're not good enough.
Well, I'm here to tell you that that's wrong. Most of the time, it can actually be better to be single.
I'll give an example. Over the summer, I went on a few dates with a really great guy and then we decided to make it official and call ourselves a couple. Around the same time, my best friend's mom passed away. This caused me a lot of emotional distress personally and for her and her family.
Trying to balance everything that was going on was a lot for me at the time. I realized I wasn't in a good headspace for a relationship at the time and that I needed to be there for myself and for my best friend. My boyfriend and I ended up calling things off.
It's never selfish to end a relationship to better yourself. I promise you, it's better for both parties involved. Being single can be a very good thing if you have the right attitude about it (especially if you're in school).
Being alone and being lonely don't have to go hand in hand. Surround yourself with friends and fill your time with things you enjoy. Love can truly come around when you least expect it.
