Carrie Bradshaw, the girl women strive to be and guys strive to be with, is one of the most famous female characters of her time. Her knowledge on dating, fashion, and sex, combined with her long list of perfect lovers, leaves any woman in her 20s dying to follow in her footsteps in hopes of finding her own true life Big.
Through her trials of love and sorting through the wrong men to find Big, Carrie had three diverse best friends. Charlotte, the perfect wife, Miranda, the lawyer, and, of course, Samantha, the career-driven woman with zero fear of taking control of her sex life.
I am here to tell you that even though society is telling you to be a Carrie, whose soul purpose in life is to find love in a concrete jungle, it is perfectly fine being a Samantha Jones.
When I realized I was a Samantha, I was embarrassed to claim that I was so similar to the powerful public relations woman. Yes, the signs are all clear that I am her, but would people look down on me for being the same as a woman who is known for her strong sexual appetite?
Eventually, I decided to embrace being a Samantha. Samantha is a strong, independent woman who has control of every aspect of her life. She does not need a stable boyfriend in order to be happy and successful. Her goals don't include finding a man to complete her, but simply finding someone who can keep up with her current lifestyle.
Being a Samantha means I have confidence in my career, body, and relationships. I have best friends who make my life even more wonderful. I am in complete control of my sex-life, and am not afraid to embrace being a woman in control.
At the end of the second "Sex and the City" film, Samantha is a 50-year-old woman, unmarried, and still very independent and in charge of her sex life. She is not an incomplete, unhappy woman who never found love, but the businesswoman who I am proud to look up to.
No matter who you claim to be — a Carrie, Charlotte, Miranda, or Samantha — know that it is no one's right but your own to follow your own path of love, life, and career. You have the right to be in control of your sex life, relationships, and who you allow into your life. So, wear your Samantha, Charlotte, or Miranda similarities with pride, and don't let anyone tell you that you need to be a Carrie.
