At nineteen years old, a sophomore in college, most people are not looking for a serious relationship. But some people, including myself, are. It is not easy living the college life when you are ready to settle down with a guy/girl when the majority of your college peers are not even thinking about that stage of life yet. Although it might suck, we should embrace the single life and let fate work it's magic.
Going to parties in college is one of the easiest ways to meet new people and possibly meet your next boyfriend or girlfriend. But if you are ready to be in a serious relationship, it will not be healthy if one of the partners, or both, are drunk every weekend. Sure, I do go out some weekends, but I'm not looking for a boyfriend who wants to party each night of every weekend. I am 100% down for some wild college nights, but I am also 100% down for nights spent with the boyfriend watching movies, cuddling, and eating popcorn. College consists of four years of parties (with some studying mixed in there). So how are we supposed to find a significant other in college who does not want to spend all four year partying? It just is not common to meet people in college who are over the party stage and are ready to be in a serious relationship.
Being a college-aged girl looking for a relationship is almost a joke. There are not many eighteen to twenty two year old guys who are ready for a relationship. And let's be honest, most of them only want to hook up with girls and play with their feelings so that they can get with them for one night. Now I am sure the genders can be swapped in that scenario, but it is more common for a girl to be ready for a serious relationship at this age than a guy. How are we supposed to know who actually wants to make things last and who is just looking for a one night stand? It is almost impossible and it is quite frankly easier to just avoid the situation than to end up heart broken. Tinder and other dating apps are common among college students, but again, how do you know which users are trying to find a hook up for the night and which ones are trying to find their next boyfriend or girlfriend?
At this point, I think we, the individuals who are ready for a serious relationship, need to just go about our daily lives and let fate work it's magic. As cheesy as it sounds, what is meant to happen will happen. Maybe will will end up meeting our significant others at a party or on some goofy dating app that we downloaded as a joke, but maybe it will be somewhere where we least expect it; in the library, at the coffee shop, at the gym, or anywhere else we might spend time at during our college years. To truly be ready for a serious relationship takes a lot of maturity. So maybe instead of dwindling on being single and the fact that nobody else our age wants to be in a relationship, we should be mature about it and have fun hanging out with our other single friends and enjoying these years of our lives as they will be over before we know it. (And before we know it, we will be happily married and these single years of our lives will be in the past!)
