I hate answering the question, "Are you single?" or "Oh, do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?". When I tell them no, they give me a look, and then proceed to tell me how much being in a relationship can make me so much more happy and all I need to do is get out there more! How about no?

Do you think, if I wanted a significant other, I couldn't get one? Has it crossed your mind that I am not in a relationship for a reason? Surprise! I actually like being on my own and not tied down to anyone. I have complete control over my emotions and actions. I don't have to answer to anyone; I have complete autonomy over what I wear, how I look, and what I say.

This isn't to say that a relationship would strip me of all my freedoms but I have seen, time and again, toxic relationships that destroy a person. I have seen breakdowns, screaming matches, quiet hot tears, manipulation, abuse, and too many more to count. It makes me angry that someone would try to force me into finding the "right person".

Listen. I have been alone and wanted a romantic relationship. We all have; it is human nature to find someone and latch yourselves to them. But I always ask myself, can my loneliness be relieved by spending time with a friend or family member? Seeking out your close platonic relationships before diving headfirst into the deep end just might be for you.

I do not need to be in a relationship to make myself happy and complete. Sure, it would be nice to share intimate parts of my soul to someone but I am in no hurry whatsoever to try and find that. I like spending time on my own; I take myself out to movies, dinners, shopping, and more. It makes me feel at peace, I don't have to worry about another person not having a good time or try to impress someone. I can be completely and fully me.

I get why the people I love want a relationship for me, trust me I do. But what I don't get is why they would explain to me the finer details and points of a relationship, to try and push that "need" on me. Is that supposed to make me want one? Should I be nodding my head vigorously and agreeing to all their "wise" words? That's what they want, I suppose.

I get so upset at the notion that because I don't have a significant other, I am not complete. My "other half" is missing and therefore I am missing something. No, I am not. Please stop assuming and telling me what to do and how to act. I know myself better than anyone.

Being in a relationship does not make you a spokesperson to the people who aren't. Stop preaching to me and mind your business. If a romantic relationship does come and I want to pursue it, then so be, but you have to stop telling me that I will be so much happier and fulfilled if I do have one.

I like being alone, as strange as you may think it is. Maybe you should try it sometime and leave your comments to yourself.