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The Beginning Of Detachment

Your thoughts don't own you

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The Beginning Of Detachment
Tucson

There's been something on your mind for a while now. You can push it back for some hours, maybe some days, but it seems to make itself back to the forefront of your mind, and you can't help but feel some defeat. "I know you've been ignoring me" the thought tells you, and you cease to acknowledge the daunting thought once more.

Next time this pesky thought comes around giving you all types of bad energy, talk to yourself. Sit up straight, and come to terms with what's on your mind. We live in this ever-changing world that demands us to be 100 percent at all times, with the reality of born imperfections. So here's the best way to quit avoiding your problem and begin learning to detach from it.

Like most things that pose problems in our lives, nothing really goes away until you take care of it. Perhaps that is unclear, "taking care of it." When you take care of something or handle the situation, you take matters into your own hands. That is the empowering feeling of having control over a situation! That's what you have, no matter how your job, schoolwork, your significant other, your parents, or your kids make you feel — you have control. You have control of your thoughts too; that's something so significant to remember. Though most of our thoughts are automatic, which helps us bide time for mostly every task we carry out everyday, as humans we should learn to exercise our central thoughts — where we cancel out the automatic processing so we can make clearer, more fruitful thoughts, and perhaps feel more in control after decision making. We feel powerless because we need to make money; We feel powerless because our self-esteem isn't where we want it to be; We feel powerless because we've gained weight, or we've lost our jobs for whatever reason. These are times where it's most crucial to remember who lives inside your own body and who is making your decisions. When we lack direction, we feel lost. Change your mindset! Feeling lost and feeling out of control are opportunities to take control of the current situation!

When you are seeking control of your thoughts, begin here.

Sit up straight, and take a deep breath in through your nostrils — feel your breath go through your chest down to your stomach, then exhale through your mouth. Repeat. This will increase your focus. You want to remember you are doing this for yourself. You are helping yourself because you have control.

Acknowledge the burdens you're facing. If you have to start small, start small, and build up to the one thought that's been badgering you. Cry if you have to — this is a healing process. Be sad, be mad, be angry. Everything you've been avoiding, you must face at one time or another. The sooner the better!

When you've let it out, and you've brought these burdens to light, take another deep breath. Remind yourself that how you feel about a situation is in your control. You are your own boss, your own personal assistant, and your own counselor. Tell yourself what you need to know. You have that right. Also tell yourself that you are amazing, even if you don't believe it. You needed to hear it today anyways. Always cheer yourself on. If no one else is doing it, you have to. No one is going to feel bad for you if you're not cheering yourself on, I promise. I think you know that, too.

If you haven't thought of ways to resolve your issue, now is a good time to do it; don't put it off any longer. We are trying to get rid of your problem. Face it or accept it as a past occurrence, whatever you do, you must remind yourself it is in the past. Learn from it or fugetaboutit. At the end of a detachment ritual, one thing remains — that's you. You've acknowledged your thoughts and their impermanence.

This ever-changing world we live in can leave us feeling so powerless and uncertain. Gain the acceptance of yourself and life's uncontrollable nature to realize the only thing you have control over is how you allow yourself to feel toward a situation. Avoiding your feelings will lead to bigger troubles in the future. Live free my friends.

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