I’ll be real, relationships can be difficult. Whether its friends, family, or even a significant other, interactions with other humans can just be hard sometimes. Conflicts are bound to happen.

I think a lot of times as women, we are scared rock the boat. We are scared to voice our concerns about a relationship for fear of coming across as high maintenance. We are nervous about addressing issues within a relationship for fear of the conversation going badly and ending up in a fight, or worse, ending up alone. We are scared to ask for what we want or need from a relationship because we fear the result.

We put ourselves in the passenger seat of the relationship, giving control to the other person, and hoping for the best.

I’ll be the first to admit I hate conflict. Like hate conflict. So a lot of times, I end up in situations where I know I am being disrespected, but I am too scared to say anything about it.

Maybe you can relate to that. Maybe there’s a situation in your life that has been bothering you, but you’re nervous to bring it up because you think you’re asking too much.

I’m about to brew up a hot, steaming cup of honesty because guess what?

You’re not asking for too much.

Relationships are a two-way street. It should serve both people involved, not just one. If there is something that needs to be discussed, discuss it, without fear of the outcome.

Don’t be afraid to ask for what you need out of a relationship, whether it’s defining the relationship, setting boundaries, or talking through something that hurt your feelings.

If they are the right person for you, whatever is important to you will be important to them too. The right person will take your thoughts, feelings, and concerns seriously because you matter.

You’re not asking for too much; you might just be asking the wrong person.