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Dear Swoonie B,

So, I really like this guy, but I kind of suck at telling if any guy is interested in me. We're both quiet, too. I see him three times a week, but we NEVER really speak. We've spoken a few times. Our families went to lunch together, and we sat next to each other. He was making a point to talk to me. So I guess that's good? Or maybe he's just trying to be friendly? I don't know. I'm terrible at this. I guess overall I'm wondering how to show him I'm interested and pick up on whether he's interested without having to say it. I've been rejected a lot, and I am scared of it happening again.

After reading your submission, I was drawn to the part that says "I see him three times a week, but we NEVER really speak." That, to me, is the answer to your question.

I say this because if a guy doesn't make an effort to talk to you, especially if he sees you regularly, then chances are he hasn't considered pursuing you.

This could be for a variety of reasons, so please please please don't jump to assuming it has anything to do with you. In fact, I encourage you to believe any other scenario for your own sanity (because the likelihood of it being one of the following is high). It's possible that...

• He doesn't want a relationship
• He's already talking to someone else
• He's focused on school, work, etc
• He didn't think you'd be interested

No matter what the reason is, though, you'll never know if you don't communicate, which is another thing I favor.

Because if you don't put yourself out there, aren't vulnerable, and don't communicate, you will never know.

The reality of the situation is that you can never assume someone is interested because they spoke to you that one time at a family lunch... that was him being friendly. Does that mean he wouldn't be interested if you actually started chatting? No. But as of right now, that's clearly not on his radar. So you have to get on it!

I know you mentioned you've been rejected a lot and you're scared that it will happen again, but if you believe the possibility of the reward is worth the risk, then just go for it! You've healed before and you'll heal again if it doesn't go the way you hope.

Plus! It does not have to be weird. By casually reacting/responding to his Insta Story or texting him to say hi you make it known you want to chat more than the few times you have and you can go from there — friends do this too, you know. So if he thinks it's weird, that's on him. For all he knows, you are just being friendly.

Before you do this, though, ask yourself these questions:

• What do I want with him?
  • Is it a relationship you're looking for? A hookup? Determine what you want before you plant the seed and then take baby steps to get there.
• Am I worried about talking to him because of my past experiences or because there are red flags?
  • If your answer to the above question is you're nervous to start a conversation because of your past experiences, then I say move forward and leave the past in the past. If there are other red flags though, forget about it.

The key is to be patient and not force something to happen or rush it. Let him snap or text you first sometimes. If you do get into the flow of talking more, then comes figuring out what's next.

Here are eight signs he's into you, once you start talking:

In the meantime, show yourself some self-love.

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