There is a difference between being a good person, and letting people walk all over you. Sometimes, this difference is not so easy to pin point and other times; you are just letting it happen even though you know you shouldn't. So how nice is too nice? And where should we cross the line?

You don't just give second chances, you give third and fourth chances.

If they have earned it, then fine...BUT half the time, these people don't even really deserve the second chance let alone the third. They just are nice to you for one second and you decide okay, let's try again. Even if they have a proven track record of not being a decent friend to you. Make people earn your chances, if they don't it will always be taken for granted.

People constantly ask you for favors.

And usually those same people wouldn't do the same for you. Example: that drunk ex needs a ride, so the person you are decides to go pick them up. What good will come of that? Don't they have other people they can call? Would they pick you up? They know you will always be there, but sometimes you just need to draw a line.

You are always the call for your drunk ex.

And worse is you answer the call. Not only do they think it is acceptable to call you after breaking your heart, but you are reinforcing this just by answering the phone. It's one thing for them to call you, but make sure there is a given period of time where you just don't answer that call.

You are always the first one to apologize.

If you did something wrong, this would be understandable. But half the time people are getting upset is because you couldn't do something for them. So now they are angry, and you are apologizing. That's not how it should be. Just cause you want to make up with your friends, does not mean you should apologize ALL THE TIME when you didn't do anything wrong.

You are constantly putting others first.

As long as other people are happy, then you say you are happy. But truthfully, there have been times where you let someone get their way and in the end that hurt you to the extreme. But because you said it was okay, now you are dealing with the pain of it. It is okay to tell people "no". In fact, you probably should more.

You are always the one compromising.

This somewhat goes along with the one before. You do not need to be the one always sacrificing what you want. There is this trend going around called "treat yo 'self"; and this is something you should embrace instead of always catering to what others want to do.

You always have to start the conversation.

Your "friends" all come to you when they want favors or want you to do something. But whenever you just want to talk it is like they are not even there. And they will never text you first unless they need something.

You feel like a victim.

I hate to break it to you hun, but you are not the victim. You have become the Devil's advocate playing into all these needs of others without taking the time out for yourself. You need to break the cycle and make sure you are putting your happiness ahead of everyone else.

You are constantly making excuses for others.

That friend that only texts you when she wants you to DD? "Oh I just want her to be safe"- would she do that for you? That guy you have a crush on, that you are being too nice too? "Oh he doesn't text me because he's just too busy." Who is too busy to send a simple text? We all pretty much live on our phones, and you can count that he almost always saw your text.

Here is a few tips to help you get the saddle back and take some control over your life.

1. Continue to be a good person, but if people are gonna treat you like shit then you need to learn the cut off point.

2. Stand up for yourself. If someone claims to be your friend, but then won't act like it then talk to them.

3. Learn that your feelings matter. Stop telling people that you don't care when you do.

4. Do not be afraid to say no. You can not do everything for everyone, and you shouldn't feel obligated to.

5. Love yourself. Treat yo self. Do something to show yourself that you matter.

If you love yourself, and can be a good person. Than good people should follow into your life. You can be nice, but remember there is such thing as "too nice"; especially to the wrong people. Learn the difference, and soon you will be surrounded by the right people and not people who make you feel like you are being used.