"It would be a terrible mistake to go through life thinking that people are the sum total of what you see." - Jonathan Tropper, This is Where I Leave You
I know we don't mean to. We try to look for the best in everyone and we want to be that person that is so accepting. We can give it our all but nothing is going to stop us from side-eyeing the woman yelling at her kids in the store, or the person who won't leave their horrible relationship because they just don't see what we see. That's because it's not our life. We grow up with morals and values put in place and we grow accustomed to a certain way that life should be. I know I get judged at my boyfriend for the way I say things and I know I judge my friends for some of the choices that I don't believe in. That doesn't make you a horrible person but I do believe it makes you less happy. If you put everyone up to your own standards then how can you love anyone?
Now, there are people who murder, rape, and etc. I'm not saying that they are wrong but thats why we have a law system to judge them for us. We should choose to look at the world with those bright eyes we had as a kid. We were always accepting of everyone when we were young. What happened?
"The more you judge, the less you love." -Honoré de Balzac
We started to see race, talk about personal issues, and the growth of social media as we got older. We became more vocal on the things that irritated us and the things we disapprove of. This negativity becomes a habit. We learn right from wrong as we get older and we learn our own rights and our own wrongs.
Now with social media this idea of judging and approving, or disapproving of someones lifestyle, became a more normal activity. We went from commenting on what a person was putting on the internet to straight up liking and favoriting something that they cared enough to put into the world. We view something someone is passionate about and have no problem voicing our opinion on it. We have created this idea of approval, thats just given out like free candy. Yes, I put my views out there but I still didn't ask for your negative thoughts on it. There is criticism and then there is downright disapproval. We are viewed as behind if we don't have enough followers or shares. Everything down to the number. Yes, I see the irony that I am posting this on something that is driven by shares. This isn't about the shares though, its about how negative the world has become and how we should try everyday to mend that negativity.
“It’s contrived images and edited clips ranked against each other. It’s a system based on social approval, likes, validation in views, success in followers. It’s perfectly orchestrated self absorbed judgement.” -Essena O'Neill
Do you feel as though you don't judge? Are you nice to everyone of your friends and family members? Oh, so you are nice to everyone. There isn't a judgmental bone in your body. How about when you watch a show? Or when you comment on an article? Or when you say a celebrity is awful, or spoiled, or not worth being famous?
You got them there. Your constant disapproval of them is why they are famous. No publicity is bad publicity because it keeps a person relevant. Do you view them as a person? Would you tell the girl at the school reunion that she got a nose job because contouring is a thing now? Or how about your cousin you haven't seen since she was 12, would you ask her at 19 if she had a boob job and plastic surgery cause she got her curves in? No, you wouldn't because you know that peoples personal lives are just that and we all know that bodies change. We also know how long it takes for recovery on plastic surgery. We know all these things and still believe that Kylie Jenner and Khloe Kardashian have had nose jobs and work done on their bodies.
"It’s always the people who know the least about you who want to judge you the most." -Kylie Jenner
Kylie Jenner is 19 and the most followed person on Snapchat. As anybody who knows anything about a nose job knows, it involves tons of recovery and as often as she is on snapchat there is no way to hide that. She has also been on the website since before she turned 18 and if her Mom was upset about lip fillers(which are temporary and recovery usually takes a few days) then I doubt she would be okay with a nose job or any other body altering. She also got older and your body will not look the same as it did when you started High School. It definitely won't look like it did when she started the show. When you age in your teens certain parts of your face become more defined and you gain curves. I definitely didn't have a butt at 14 and I have a decent one at 22. My boobs at 14 were also not the same. Kylie is a growing person. Her body will change and yes she will get boobs and curves.
For Khloe, if you follow her on Snapchat then you know that she works out all the time. Her workout routines with Kourtney are INSANE. They do tons of reps of very intense workouts. Yes, your body can change when you stick to workouts and stop sitting on your sofa cyberbullying some celebrity.
Body shaming and any shaming of others is awful. We need to understand that these are people too and if they do get things done to their body then why does it change your perception of them. If you ever watch the show they are a family oriented, God Loving, and hilarious group.
I think Ariel Winter said it best..
"'I mean, people say everything on the face of the planet to me about everything I do. And it just really, it can destroy a person and I also think it's disgusting what people spend their time on....'You're sitting behind a computer, you don't have the guts to say it to my face, but you have the time and energy to shame and hurt somebody on the computer, and that just show how little respect you have for other people and how people spend their time.'"
“It is the Holy Spirit's job to convict, God's job to judge and my job to love.”
