I know as a society we think this is normal. As a college student you go to a party, look for someone you find attractive, and then make light conversation. Then they go back to your place and you may have a one night stand. It's not any different out in the real world: you go to work in place of school every day, and then on the weekends you go to a bar. And there's nothing wrong with that; as a matter of fact, if you do this that's perfectly fine. But not everybody is like that. It's simply a lifestyle we choose to live. We all grew up with different experiences. We all grew up with different influences. And it all shapes who we are and what we choose to do. But there are other kinds of people out there too. The ones that find more meaning in sex. The ones that aren't so willing to give that up right from the start. The ones that believe that it should be saved for the right person. Who is the right person? How would you know? You probably won't know until you spend time with them.
"There are two types of people in this world: hopeless romantics and realists. A realist just sees that face and packs it in with every other pretty girl they've ever seen before. The hopeless romantic becomes convinced that God put them on Earth to be with that one person."But life is only as meaningful as you fool yourself into thinking it is. ("Stuck in Love") So I'd like to believe, that there may be one more person, one who incorporates a bit of both.
What ever happened to asking a girl out on a date? And ladies, there is nothing wrong with you taking this role as well. But do so with elegance. If they really aren't interested in you, then move on. Our generation is too afraid to simply ask out a person they find interesting, to get to know them. But why? What's so wrong with asking someone you constantly see and barely know out to dinner? With our busy lives every day, are we all able to find time to simply get to know them as friends first? What about out in the real world when you have a job? Your lives are going to get even busier, and you're not going to have time to slowly ease a friendship into a relationship. What happened to the art of simply asking a girl out on a date? But because hardly anyone does this anymore, it's intimidating. It's a falling art.
But if you have a passing thought, and life gives you these opportunities. Then take it. Don't let this become a "what if?" Don't let this be a chance that you missed out on something that could've been. Don't let a moment slip by your touch. Because when you don't, and if you don't, you won't regret it. And I know it may be hard, and you'll get nervous. But that's OK. Because you are stepping out of your comfort zone to do something about your destiny. William Jennings Bryan once said, “destiny is not a matter of chance; it is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.” But of course fate plays some role in this too; you have to be at the right place, at the right time. Just don't let that be your only influence.
Because you'll never know... until you ask. What's the worst that could happen? (In Chandler Bing's case, he might die.) You'll hear a no, or some form of it. But you'll spend the rest of your life knowing, that you at least tried.
