Ever since I can remember I've been a quiet person. I've always kept to myself and did my own thing. I'm an introvert. I've been "called out" about this during school, especially in college. I've been told that I need to voice my opinions and take charge! I've even been put in positions where I've had to be the leader, control the group, and have everyone follow my directions whether I knew what I was doing or not. I totally understand why in college I've been told this, but it's not like I'm not participating, sharing ideas, or working with groups. I am. I just don't boast my opinions like others do.
I really don't see why the fact that I'm a quiet person is such a problem. I've been places, where I've been quiet and people will ask "Is Colleen even there?". Yes, I am here. I'm just listening and don't have anything to say. I like to listen. I think it's one of the best qualities about myself. When someone comes to me with a problem I listen until they are done telling me whatever the issue is and then I give advice. I think I'm a pretty observant person in the fact that I'm a good listener. I tend to remember everything someone says to me, especially in an argument. Is this a bad thing? I don't think so.
Back to me being an introvert. I like to keep to myself. I have absolutely no problem going on a walk, bike ride, roller blade, or run by myself. Most of the time I'd rather go by myself so I can think and just do my own thing. I also have no issue staying home and read a book. Call me a nerd, but there isn't anything better than reading a really good book. I also love having a small close group of friends, rather than a large group of friends. I find in by having a small group of close friends, the friendships are true and reliable. I know that I can text a friend or ask them to go hangout and they'll always respond. I mean there's nothing wrong with having a large group of friends, but I feel like at time they're more acquaintances rather than real friends. My friends bring out my loud outgoing side, while I bring out there reserved side. We balance each other out, which is definitely a good thing.
The next time you think about making a judgement on the way someone is, consider this; they might be perfectly content the way that they are.