Do you consistently find yourself questioning, “Why does he treat me like this?” The answer most likely is because you let him. After spending countless nights with my girlfriends talking about their most recent drama, this seems to be a topic where girls get lost about. However, maybe it is not confusing at all.

You show people what is acceptable and what is not. If you respect yourself and from the beginning don’t put up with anything less than what you deserve, you will get the respect of your person.

If from the beginning you just continuously take the blame upon yourself, caving in and being okay with your guy also dating another girl during the same amount of time, you're enabling him to treat you that way.

Put your foot down, you are young, smart and have so much to offer to the world and to yourself. Don’t accept this. Walk away.

When you first meet someone, you go out and make plans outside the house. Don’t start the relationship off by not leaving the bedroom because then that’s where it will stay.

So many girls get confused as to why their relationship that had potential is stuck in a hookup only phase with the other person flaking on plans. Well maybe if you stop replying to 3 am booty calls and offer another suggestion for something to do it would change.

Be strong, your friends will be there through all the steps of the way, but if you think he loves you but also loves her too- let it go. You shouldn’t be spending your whole life hoping the other girl walks away or blaming her.

You should blame him for not being trustworthy and end things because being worried about who he’s hitting up at 3 am when it’s not you and you’ve “dated” for two years isn’t okay.

Why live a life of insecurities and always feeling like you aren’t good enough? Stop questioning and waiting for him to change.

If he really cared about you, he wouldn’t be spending his time dating someone else. Maybe you are the side chick after all?

He won’t admit it and you have all this proof of the detection work you have done to stalk him. It’s not worth it. You shouldn’t have to track his every move; you should trust each other.

Without trust, there is no foundation for a relationship. You can keep telling yourself that he’ll stop and he’ll start loving you and only you. The truth is, that probably won’t happen- you’ll just keep making excuses for him because you don’t respect yourself enough to leave this at the curb.

When you start respecting yourself, the quality of your relationships will change- this step starts with you.