There are so many debates about how women are objectified. Although that may be true, the question I want to ask is: do women let themselves be objectified? Are men just as targeted as women are? I see so many posts from women half naked on the screen that seem to be seeking attention. Sure it's nice for there to be a long string of comments after a post like that,I mean I am guilty of wanting the same things, but in a way, that kind of gives people permission to objectify us.
When things get posted like that, it practically gives people permission to view you as something to look at, rather than a person. Like I said before, I am in no way perfect about this, but I think it has become a problem in our society. I feel like girls complain all the time about how guys treat them like objects, yet they do/post things to let themselves be viewed in that way by guys.
When stuff like that happens, we are unintentionally targeting men just as much as we feel targeted by them. Now I'm not going to point the finger at who's fault it is (because I think men and women are both to blame), but we can do things to help people prevent that.
We have the power to change peoples opinions and views on us. So why don't we?
We live in a world constantly surrounded by sex, looks, reputation, population, etc. As women, I feel like we are always trying to "measure up" to societies standards of what we are supposed to look like, post, and be viewed as. We have this pressure to post certain photos, look a certain way, get a certain number amount of likes and comments... Maybe that's not the same for you, but I for one have felt that way.
But what if we decided to stop caring? What if we decided to create a new image for ourselves? What if we started taking the blame for some of the stuff we post that make guys look at us a certain way?
I know society tells you to but fight that urge to post stuff that will make guys stumble. Let us start taking some of the blame and stop pointing fingers at people who objectify us.
So are men just as targeted as women? Probably. But guys aren't completely innocent either. We are both to blame equally.
I know it's hard and I'm guilty of it too. But at the end of the day, I would rather be respected and seen for who I really am rather than being seen as a hot object; no matter how good it makes me feel about myself in the moment. No matter what society tells me to do.
Just some thoughts I have been having. I am in no way trying to be condescending or targeting anyone, and I hope I didn't offend anyone.
Remember to always be inspiring.
