Having a boyfriend that is family oriented may mean that he spends way too much time around his family or just way too much time helping out his family. I've been with my boyfriend for two years and I've gotten to know his habits really well. I know how much of a softy my tough looking boyfriend can be. He will put every person before himself even when he needs some time to himself. It's funny how he is even going into a career that forces him to put others before himself. He wants to be a firefighter just like his dad who he looks up to so much. Now that you know a little bit about my family oriented boyfriend, here is a list of things that anyone with a family oriented boyfriend will understand.
1. He may say that you come first but it isn't always true.
He may say that you come first but it isn't always the truth or it just doesn't feel that way. When dates are postponed or a call cut short you may get a little discouraged about what your getting into but then you see how much fun he has with your cousins or his nieces and nephews and everything shifts and you're so glad he is a family oriented guy.
2. He will drop anything to help.
He is big with putting his family first and when they are in need he is the first person they call but here is the catch...your family can always count on him as well. I've had more than one occasion where I've had family members call up my boyfriend to help move a piece of furniture or do some yard work. It may be annoying but at least he is great with both your family and his own.
3. Plans can be postponed.
This really goes along with him dropping anything. If a family member calls him then that means even your plans can be pushed back. I've had many dates/meeting times that have been put on hold because his family needed him. At the time I'm angry and jealous but I have to admit, it is really admirable.
4. He tries to get in good with your parents.
I believe that my boyfriend could just be a kiss-butt but hey I'll just pretend it is because he is so nice. He fits so well into my family and it was like he just belonged there. My parents treat him more like a friend or another child instead of a boyfriend but it also means they don't mind when he is over so late.
5. You get to be around his entire family.
When your boyfriends family is just as big as yours you could say it makes for interesting times. I've always hated that I'm an only child because I've always wanted to be an aunt. As soon as I walked into his family I gained a nephew and a niece. In the last two years I've gained another niece and another nephew. I may not be their aunt yet but my boyfriend's siblings already make me feel like I've been in the family for years, and for that I am thankful.
In the end I have to say that I love having a family oriented boyfriend. I've gained a second family before even being married into the family. I know that when it is our turn to start a family I'll be thankful that my boyfriend is family oriented. I want to thank my boyfriend for being who is and tell him to never change.
