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To Those Who Thought Suicide Was The Answer

A permanent solution to a temporary problem.

Steven P. VanValkenburgh

Apr 03, 2017

Manayunk, Philadelphia

To Those Who Thought Suicide Was The Answer

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What is done is done. We can't change the past. We can only move on to the future and live in the present. I know what you did you thought was right and I can't blame you for that. I can, however, say that it wasn't the answer you should have chosen because it was a permanent answer to a temporary problem. I just feel terrible that you got to the point in your life where you thought that was your only option - that's the sad part.

While others might be mad at you for making a choice that they felt wasn't yours to choose. Just know that I'm not mad. I understand. It's normal for others to ask "why did he/she do this?" and when it comes down to it we don't and we won't ever truly know your reason and or reasons. Your loved one or significant other might be asking "Why would he/she leave me like this! How could they be so selfish?" While they're confused, I get it. You didn't intentionally mean to harm anyone by your actions, you just felt that was the right decision. Matter of fact you probably thought you would be helping them by removing yourself from their lives.

While not many people can understand what goes on in someone's head during this time, I can because I been there. A common question is "Why didn't they get help?" When someone is in the state of mind to the point where they want to kill themselves, it's not easy to admit. If anything, they would rather suffer alone because they have been suffering for so long already. Which is why he/she turned to suicide. That seemed to be the only logical answer to the pain you felt day in and day out. That's not your fault and I can't blame you.

As I write this, I just wished that you realized you were loved and you meant something. That only if you held out a little longer, things would have gotten better. Time heals and you just needed a little more of it. While we can dwell on what decision you chose and how it was right or wrong, all I hope is that you finally found the peace you were looking for that you couldn't find in this world.

Rest easy, the fight is over.

Sincerely,

A person who struggled with suicide and survived.

P.S. It did get better.

If you or a loved one is having suicidal thoughts. Please do not hesitate to call the suicide hotline. It could save you or a loved one from making a permanent decision to a temporary problem.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

Call 1-800-273-8255

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We don't buy into these... just like how we don't buy our friends.

8. "The whole philanthropy thing isn't real, right?"

7. "I don't need to buy my friends."

6. "Oh, so I'll bet you love to drink."

5. "Can you tell me some of your secrets?"

4. "What do you do at your meetings?"

3. "Do you guys haze really badly?"

2. "Is it just like in the movies?"

1. "Sororities are so basic."

There are plenty of obstacles that come when taking care of kids, but it's a very rewarding experience.

1. You get excited when the parents purchase season passes to the pool.

2. You've become friends with the stay-at-home moms in town.

3. You get a chance to eat "kid foods" again.

4. You've traded in your cute purse for a large tote bag.

5. You have at least one car seat in your backseat.

6. Their nap time is your happy time.

7. Lunch time can be a disaster.

8. You have to play the same board games repeatedly.

9. You catch yourself using the same lines your parents once told you.

10. Your "mom-mode" kicks in at times.

11. Your heart melts a little when they do something cute.

You'll never find any souvenirs with your name on it

1. You know you are up next when the teacher pauses while taking attendance

2. When “I’m going to do my very best to make sure I know all your names” is said, it may or may be an empty promise

3. “Wow! That sounds so cool! Where is your family from?”

4. You dread when people ask you to repeat your name over and over because it “sounds so cool when you say it”

5. There’s a 50/50 chance that your name will come back either correct or incorrect at Starbucks

6. People try to find shorter, easier nicknames for you instead of calling you by your actual name

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8. “What’s your name?” “It’s [name]” “I’m sorry, what was it again?”

9. You’ve pretty much seen every misspelling and heard every mispronunciation of your name throughout your life

10. When you find another person with an “ethnic” sounding name, you both get excited

11. Despite the struggles, your name is pretty unique… just like you

Can I be excused for the rest of my life?

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1. “Oh, so you/your family are immigrants!”

2. “Is Puerto Rico near Mexico?”

3. “Do you speak Puerto Rican?”

4. “You look too light/dark to be Puerto Rican.”

5. “Do I need my passport to go to Puerto Rico?”

6. “Geez, you are obsessed with your flag. We get it, you’re Puerto Rican.”

7. “Why are you so loud?”

8. “So does your family know English?”

9. “Oh my god, Puerto Ricans are so spicy.”

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11. “Are you Mexican?”

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