To the lover of Christ and Coffee looking for her Jesus loving Man,

“I have found the one whom my soul loves”

The quote above, it's plastered all over Pinterest, painted on perfectly weathered wood, and printed on wedding announcements. It’s a beautiful saying, one everyone hopes holds true to their lives at some point. That saying, it’s actually a verse, a beautiful reminder that comes straight from the Word of God.

I have had my fair share of heartaches, my dating record has a few marks on it, and still I have not found those words to be true. I have not been able to say them. So one day I simply stopped looking.

We see those sayings everywhere, “find a man who is so buried in Jesus that he only looks up when he hears God whisper ‘there she is’,” this is every Christian girl’s hope. I took all this in to consideration when I started dating in college, when those I became interested in believed in the same things I did. Looking for “the one” or “the one who loves Jesus” lead to a few more marks on my dating track record. So I stopped, I stopped trying to fit these guys into the picture of what I thought they were supposed to be.

My heart eventually changed, and along with it so did my outlook on dating.

Instead of trying to find the one who was buried in Jesus, I wanted to bury myself in Jesus. Instead of trying to find “the one” I wanted to find myself in the One true God. My desires changed, my life changed, and so did the people around me. My heart now recognized other hearts that were as buried as mine. Hearts chasing the love of the Lord instead of the love of others, as I pursued my savior I noticed others who were doing the same.

And then I heard it, the whisper, “there he is.”

God pointed out a heart to me, a heart also pursuing Him. I saw the picture of a man of God being painted, strokes of a brush changing a once broken boy into a man willingly growing and learning. I saw someone who matched my heart when it came to the love of Christ and God whispered “there he is” or more so “there is what he should look like.” You see I’ve seen hearts that have matched my own in faith, or even outweighed it. But I had never heard the whisper of God saying “notice this one, this is something good.”

We have no control over the plans that God has for us, but if we are still and focus on Him, He may allow us a glimpse of what is to come.

So to the girl who is surviving off of Jesus and Coffee, keep pursuing your one true love, the love of Christ. And when you least expect it you will hear the whisper of God saying “Be still and look at what I have in store for you.”