When I open Facebook, I see all of these girls who are telling the world that they are "waiting." Waiting for love, waiting for that next job, waiting for that better opportunity... I am not a patient person. In a world of instant gratification, I have succumbed to the idea that I want what I want when I want it. But, not in a simple, when-I-order-my-food-its-gotta-come-out-NOW way. I am impatient in my bigger picture. I want to be passionately happy and entirely content as soon as possible and I don't always feel supported in this goal. I see a lot of letters written to girls who are waiting. This is a very different message, to a very different girl.
Stop waiting.Â
Stop sitting back and saying that you will be okay with whatever comes to you. You won't be. You desire and deserve adventure, and you aren't going to find it sitting back and letting the world turn around you. Yes, patience is a virtue. But, waiting doesn't have to mean sitting still. Do not listen to those who tell you to be complacent. Be impatient. If you have an idea, go for it. Do not wait for it to be easy.
Do not build yourself a fortress and settle down inside of it. Telling the outside world that you are waiting does not cause them to sit down and wait with you. Make things happen. Give in to impatience and search for opportunities to broaden your world.
Don't wait around for "the one." Go on dates, fall in love over and over again, and get your heart broken. You need those lessons for when "the one" eventually does show up. Who knows what they are out there doing? Search for "the one" in every guy you kiss, find those qualities in every guy who gives you butterflies. Be impatient. You are allowed to make mistakes. Playing it safe won't make memories, and you are missing opportunities to love many different people, in many different ways.
Why is it such a bad thing to explore your options? Why do the impatient girls get looked down upon? Yes, be emotionally patient and don't expect your life to be settled right away. But, don't hold yourself back with the idea that guarding your heart will cause everything to fall into place. There is no shame in being willing to put yourself out there and not just accept things the way that they are. Taking chances will give you more Feed your soul by taking chances. Let yourself be hopeful and try over and over again; do not give up and decide to wait.
Try everything. Fail almost everything. Be really successful at a couple things. And above all else, do not be patient when it comes to your happiness. Go out there and be happy. Right now.
