We have played this game for years, but a couple of mature and realistic conversations make it seem like it's different this time. We've explained our feelings to one another and how each other’s personalities work. Fast forward to a couple days later, when things take a turn and confusion takes over in your head. You disappear. Tears stream and voices rise, but the same question is asked…what was the point?
What was the point of promising? What was the point of committing? What was the point of saying I love you?
People don’t realize that when you promise certain things, it means more than what you think. Promising is a sense of showing loyalty and trust. If you are making a promise, you are providing a warm blanket that reassures them about everything. So what’s the point of promising something if you won’t hold it close to you? What’s the point of promising to then crush it and break that person's hope? It’s offensive to not keep a promise; it means your words were lies. Lies aren’t meaningful.
Commitment can be the most important aspect in a relationship, which coincides with loyalty. But this can also be the most difficult part of a relationship for some people; furthermore, some may think it’s hard to devote their all to somebody else. I wonder if it’s the word that scares people the most or the fact that some people are just scumbags and want to be with everyone in the world. Either way, if you’re involved with someone and they want commitment, don’t promise it if you can’t follow through. You’re asking for trouble if you act otherwise.
If you’re looking for a way to really stab a knife through someone’s heart, saying ‘I love you’ then disappearing will make you conqueror of all. ‘I love you’ is referred to as dropping the “L-Bomb," which emphasizes the significance of the statement. One can truly never tell if that special someone is saying something meaningful or just saying it because that’s what he or she wants to hear, but if you're facing the second case, just don’t say anything at all. Especially ‘I love you.' If you say ‘I love you,' you’re saying that all promises and commitments are kept close to you. So the next time you want to say it, remember what the meaning behind it is and that you’re all in…disappearing isn’t an option.
Don’t leave someone in the shadows and disappear, you’re just going to leave yourself with the reputation of being a coward. What’s the point of saying all of those things then just walking away? Say you come back in a couple days…what did you accomplish? What changed? I’ll answer that question for you: nothing. You accomplished nothing. If you plan on disappearing, just stay away. Don’t come back to break my heart again.
This situation can mentally affect someone to the point where trust will always be broken and pave a wall up for future endeavors with other people, so thank you.
