Dear Girls Who Had To Get Over A Boy They Never Dated,

This letter is so long overdue. I can't even imagine how many girls have stayed up nights crying into their pillows not understanding why they could be so attached to someone they never had a chance with. No one ever gives credit to the girls who invest their time and feelings into a boy, only to be crushed, left alone to put themselves back together. It's harder than we let on. How do you explain to someone that you're crying over someone who was never 'yours'?

How do you rationalize it to yourself, because that's the hardest part. Girls are labelled "obsessed", "clingy", or even "crazy" when they show these emotions. I understand, and I feel your pain. I see the way society puts you down for feeling your emotions. It's wrong, and I'm not standing for it anymore, and neither should you.

I understand you, though. I understand how you one minute you could be crying over him, and then the next, questioning why it feels so stupid to be doing so. Society tells you that it's "creepy" that you're still hung up on that guy you liked for a few months. You put yourself down for ever feeling pain over someone who never felt the same. It's not your fault, love. Remember that on the nights where it's easy to forget. Why put yourself down? That's wrong, and you don't deserve that.

Your feelings are just as real, whether they are reciprocated or not.

Let me say it again; your feelings are just as real, whether they are reciprocated or not. The color of their eyes, the sound of their laugh, and the ways they made you smile are all the same. Memories don't change just because someone decides to pretend they didn't happen. Regardless of how they may feel, don't let anyone, not even yourself, belittle your feelings.

I understand how difficult it is to look yourself in the mirror and realize that you need to give up on them. It's so hard to admit to yourself, but you deserve better. It's heartbreaking. But, those who do not understand argue that we shouldn't be upset over something that never happened. Last time I checked, our feelings still happen. Ignore those who try to bring you down. You will get through this, and your feelings are valid. I give you so much credit for waking up every day and continuing on, even when you want to take the day off and cry in bed, like most do when going through heartbreak. You are stronger than you'll ever know.

It is an act of bravery to feel your feelings.

Love,

A Girl Getting Over A Boy She Never Dated