Hey sweet girl,
Yesterday it swept much of the news and social media that your father has certain ideas about how women should behave.
He said, “I want to come home to a home cooked dinner every night at six,” Sykes said, referring to demands he makes of his girlfriend. “One that she fixes and one that I expect one day to have daughters learn to fix after they become traditional homemakers and family wives," per Raw Story.
Now I have a few things I want to tell you as these ideas of his have become public.
You by no means have to be what your father thinks is best for you when you grow up.
If you want to be a wife and a homemaker, by all means, be the best wife and homemaker you can be. Learn how to make amazing food and feed your family. Spend time with a man who loves you and maybe cook meals together. However, being a wife and a homemaker does not come with a specific set of rules as your father so blatantly states.
Go be successful and build a career for yourself. Although your father believes that women who are putting their careers at the forefront of their lives are "career-obsessed banshees who forgo home life and children and the happiness of family to become nail-biting manophobic hell-bent feminist she-devils who shriek from the top of a thousand tall buildings," you are allowed to believe differently than him.
Do not succumb to the idea that since your mother is following what your father thinks, it is the correct way of life.
Be who you want to be. If that means you want to be into sports and being athletic, do it. If that means you want to be more feminine in nature, then you can do it.
Be a strong career driven woman. Be your own breadwinner.
Fight for what you think is the right thing in life. There is no rulebook that says your father knows best. Quite frankly he is limiting the possibilities of who you can become one day.
What a mind-boggling idea that he could have a daughter who is destined to be a strong businesswoman, a politician, a member of the armed forces, or so many other possibilities. However, he is going to tell you that you need to be learning to be a traditional homemaker.
Your mother will be a woman who gives you nothing but the best care and love that a mother could give.
She has the idea that she should be that of only a homemaker and do what is needed to please your father.
Your mother will love you unconditionally regardless of what decisions you make in your life. Let your kind heart become a trait that you carry with you for the rest of your life. However, I beg you to make your own decisions throughout the course of your life. Your parents are meant to be your guides.
Your father has a previously selected path for you that you may not like. Do not let either of your parents defer you from your dreams as you grow up.Your father does love you, please do not forget that. However, he may have a different set of ideas on your future than you do.
As you grow up he may tell you that strong women are nasty women with "snake-filled" heads.
I want you to be able to create an opinion for yourself. If you want to be a strong conservative woman, do it. If you want to be a strong liberal woman, you do it. Your father does not get to take the reins of where your life goes, you do.
You are the master of your own fate and the captain of your own soul beautiful girl. Do not let these words your father will be well known for control what direction your life takes. Be the next Oprah, the next president, be who you want to be.
These words do not get to stop you.
From,
A strong young woman.
