Here is an open letter to all of those friends that think they have been dropped when they're best friend has gotten a boyfriend or girlfriend, and who just blatantly do not understand. And I can easily sum it up in approximately three simple words. Get over yourself. There I finally said it. But of course I will go into depth for all of you who do not understand what it actually means.
Well my name is Kristie and I have been with my boyfriend for almost three years now, and I am absolutely head over heels in love with him. Corny, I know, but it's the truth. We started dating the summer going into senior year and have been going strong ever since. Since then though we both have been dropped or have dropped friends that say, "Oh, all you care about is your boyfriend." Or "You base our friendship off of your relationship," or my personal favorite, "We didn't ask to hang out because we figured you were with each other."
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Honestly how old are we? We are young adults and what some people do not realize is that it is okay to have friends in a relationship. It's okay to hang out with a couple, we are the exact same people that we have always been we just have an addition. I work almost 40 hours a week, I go to school, and I played sports so at some points in my life I have a lot on my plate, so excuse me when I try and double dip and hang with friends and my boyfriend at times. That is allowed you know, to have boys and girls hang out together.
Am I obsessed with my boyfriend? Well the definition of obsessed is to preoccupy or fill the mind of (someone) continually, intrusively, and to a troubling extent. So no I am not. I love him, he is on my mind a lot but not to a troubling extent. And even if he was who cares, I don't know when being in love turned into such a bad thing. Maybe that is what's wrong with our generation. Being in a relationship turned into such a bad thing, now we have things like "Netflix and chill" and the word bae. So when I have friends coming up to me saying I heard you and (insert name here) aren't friends anymore because you are always with your boyfriend, you can understand why I get a little ticked off.
And this happens too often but for what reason. Your best friend cannot handle sharing you? People like this are the reason I am with my boyfriend all the time. When it comes down to it me and my boyfriend are one in the same. That is why we are dating, so if you like hanging out with me you'll most likely love hanging with my boyfriend. Which I know is not the case for most people, I just consider myself lucky. I know I am young and I know I'm in love but some people turn it into a bad thing. I know you want to hang out a lot but so does my boyfriend that's the point of being in a relationship: to turn something like a hallway crush into a relationship that can turn into marriage.
But it's not only that, even when I gave you all of the time in the world it still wasn't enough. I LOVE my girl time, believe me. After being in a relationship for three years, a girl needs her girl time. So when I did have the time with you I loved every moment of it, but enough is enough at some point. It ended up me just being ridiculed for being obsessed with my boyfriend.
So to the friends who get mad when they're best friend gets/has a boyfriend, and are rude and do not understand, and to the friends who turn around and talk about it behind your back: you doing all of that makes me happy you're gone. And when you look back on all of your failed friendships and realize that it is no one else's fault but your own.
Sincerely;
Your almost but not quite lifetime friend.
