Dear Un-engaged Couple,
It's that time of the year again. Every time you open up any form of social media you see another couple newly engaged with a big shiny engagement ring and a plethora of happy pictures,
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It is maddening.
Of course we are happy for the couple, but you cannot help but feel like you are steadily falling behind the milestones, like engagements, weddings, and having kids, of other couples.
After being with someone for quite a few years, you are basically at the same point in life as an engaged couple, just without the candy on your finger. Life will not change much because a new level of commitment is shown to the public.
So if you are like me and,
this is what I have to say to you.
Be happy for those who have expressed themselves in the form of engagement. It is hard not to be envious of the ring, the attention, and the monumental happiness they are experiencing, but the newly engaged couple still deserve your love and support. You would want the same for your engagement.
Do not doubt the love and connection within your own relationship. The pictures from other couples' engagement may look like they share a greater love, but pictures do not define the love within your relationship. You and your significant other know they bond you share and the strength of it. You don't always need a ring to symbolize the strength of your relationship.
Remember that your time will come. You may not be glowing in an engagement picture now, but you will be one day. Timing is everything. Later when you do get engaged, you will be happy it happened when it did, rather than earlier or later.
The reason many people get engaged is to prepare for becoming wedded. Within a less than a year to two years after getting engaged, people get married. The engagement is just to alert people that the duo will soon become one.
I know it is hard too take this advice. It is hard for myself to write this, because every time someone posts their newly engagement status along with pictures they taunt me. They make feel jealous, especially when the couple is either younger or has not been together as long as me and my significant other, but that should not matter.
What matters is your own life and your own relationship. Do fun things with your significant other, you don't have to be engaged to be happy and be in love. Your proposal will come one day, and you will glow with happiness.
Yours Truly,
The girl who did not get engaged this year either.
