To the boy who ruined my view of relationships,

I knew I was not happy. I wasn’t happy with our relationship and I knew it was unhealthy. I had finally built up the courage to break it off with you, so I did. Then, you manipulated my thoughts and feelings one last time. I got back together with you for your sake and regretted it instantly. That wasn’t in the best interest for me, it also wasn't fair to keep you around while I did not want you around. I ended up hurting you more by keeping you around instead of cutting it off for good.

It’s been a good year and I’m still angry about the relationship. Yes, parts of it were good, but if you look back at it, there were a lot of unhealthy habits, and not only on your end, I do not completely blame you… just mostly.

I feel like I was held back from being who I really wanted to be; I’m still in the process of regaining everything I lost. Our relationship really distorted my view on relationships and what they should be, that’s the part that bothers me the most.

From that, though, I learned that I truly am the most important person in my own life. My happiness comes first. I missed out on a solid year of my life thanks to you, but I’ll have twice as much fun making it up.

There’s no other way to put it, other than that it sucks. It sucks that you had to ruin my view on relationships. I’m still learning what is healthy and unhealthy in relationships because you skewed that so much. But guess what? Because of what you did to me, I know how much better I deserve and what I should and should not accept in a relationship. I can see you obviously have not moved on, but I have. Now I have no problem confronting others if I don’t think I’m being treated right or fairly. That awful relationship with you actually saved me from more subpar relationships.

Not accepting these subpar relationships has led me to a spectacular one. Of course our previous relationship makes me a little more “on edge” than I should be, but now I know what’s right and wrong, and I can not wait to see where this one goes.

So, I would just like to thank you one more time for keeping me in that awful relationship for over a year, because now I know what I deserve, and it’s sure more than you ever provided for me.

Sincerely,

Your ex-girlfriend, who couldn't be doing better