To the boy who cheated:
Stay out of her life. The moment you cheated on her, you lost any privilege you had to be in her life. So stop texting her. Stop sending her endless snapchats when she blocks your phone number. Stop "accidentally" showing up at all the same places she is. You already put her through an emotional ringer she never deserved.
She was always there to support you in whatever you pursued, but you never gave her the same respect. You could not have cared less over her interests, feelings, or even where she is going to school next year. All you really wanted was a cheerleader and financial support system.
As a third party to the relationship that has evolved, I have very little control of the situation between the two of you. My best friend is still so wrapped up in her emotions regarding you, she does not have the ability to listen to reason. She is still there to cheer you on and be at your beck and call.
This is going to change. I am here to be strong for her, since she cannot. I do not feel bad about telling you how rude you are to her or have unacceptable your behavior is. I will not give you the benefit of the doubt or let you slide by with white lies. There is a standard of behavior for interacting with others, and the way you treated her would not even satisfy the minimum requirements for interaction with an acquaintance, let alone a girlfriend.
She deserves better than you. She deserves a mate who will take into account her feelings and interests. She deserves someone who she can engage with at an intellectual level. She deserves someone who can show her the world in a whole new light. She deserves a man that you will never be.
And to the spouses facing the same heartbreak as my friend:
Let your friends support you. Let yourself cry. However, do not let this heartbreak consume your life. It may be hard, but the best thing to do is to block your former significant other on all modes of communication. It will help you move on and rebuild. If you keep reopening the wound, it will never be able to heal.
While you may feel broken, you must open yourself up to your friends. If you keep closing them off or ignoring their advice, you will end up isolating yourself more. While your friends will always be there to help you, they are human too. They will grow tired of trying to help if they see no results, like how people grow tired of dieting.
Things will get better. Sometimes life just needs to hit rock bottom before it can be better. Just do not let this heartbreak make you question your self-worth, beauty, or intelligence. If your former spouse could not see all the wonderful things that make you you, it is their loss.
xoxo,
Morgan
