We all have that person in our life we think deserves the world. Whether it is our best friend, sibling, or family member, it hurts when you watch them cry over someone who doesn't deserve them or settle because they can't see how amazing they really are. Sometimes it's hard to find the words to comfort someone that is heartbroken, but also empower them to make the best decision for themselves, whatever that may be. This is to my person.
Dear Person:
You are amazing. I have sat here and watched you go through times where you were confused, lost, and had to deal with hardships way bigger than yourself. I was there. I was there for the tears, the screaming, the emptiness and the silence and I have seen you take all of that and transform into the kind, generous, beautiful person that you are now. And I'm not saying that you're perfect. You and I both know that you are far from it, and you have made mistakes and will continue to do so, but the fact is that you learn and you love despite what has happened in the past.
I get it, being in love is hard. When you look at someone that makes you smile, laugh, and just gets you, it's hard to see yourself walking away. I know that. It's not easy to find someone that you're really comfortable around and lets you be just you, nothing more. It's easy to let all of the good parts overshadow the bad, even the really, really bad. Relationships are complicated and there's a thin line between when it's still something worth fighting for and when it's not. I know.
But you deserve happiness. You deserve waking up and going to bed feeling content and safe and loved. Not just when everything is good, but even when it's not. I don't mean fairytale sprinkles and rainbows. No relationship is like that. I mean being able to disagree and fight with someone without doubting their love for you. I mean open communication and honesty because you have zero doubt that that person has only your best interests in mind. I don't mean someone that doesn't screw up or make mistakes. I just mean someone that really strives to be the best partner they can be, admits when they are wrong, and learns from it.
It's not easy to watch someone I love let someone who doesn't deserve them impact their life so much. I know that it doesn't seem like it, but there is so much more life and time. I guess I'm saying that, whatever you choose, know that you are so much bigger than this. I've watched you challenge yourself continually, overcome obstacles you didn't think you could, and grow and mature into the gorgeous being you are today. You deserve someone like that. You deserve someone that is open, caring, funny, supportive, self-critical, independent, and all of those good things because you are all those traits and more.
Whatever happens, know that I love you and support you unconditionally because you've always done that for me. You are amazing and deserve someone just as amazing. I feel like you forget that. This is your reminder.
