Dear Single Friends,
The most important piece of advice I can give you at this point is that not all your future relationships are going to be like your last. I know you’ve been hurt, and you didn’t deserve it; but one day God will send you the perfect one and you’ll realize why it didn’t work out with anyone else. Your friendship means the world to me and I know you forget how important you are sometimes, but a boyfriend shouldn’t be the one to remind you of your worth. Before you’re able to make a relationship work you need to love yourself, and when you get down on yourself I’ll be here to bring you back up.
I know that when you go through a tough breakup you begin to ask yourself what you did wrong or how you could’ve been a better girlfriend, but you’ve got it all wrong. As your best friend I know about the nights we spent riding around singing in the car and the uncontrollable laughter for the dumbest instances, but not everyone will appreciate the way your voice breaks when you sing too high or when your stomach aches from laughing too long. Not everyone laughs at your jokes like I do, and not everyone has seen you at your lowest points and still been there for you like me. It’s hard for you to open up to people and show your true colors, but that’s okay because not everyone deserves to know you like that.
When someone doesn’t know how to treat you properly it doesn’t mean that you weren’t good enough. Sometimes relationships just don’t work and there’s literally nothing either of you could’ve done to change that, but it’s not the end of the world. People grow apart and it’s completely OK. God will never take anything from you without the intentions to replace it with something better. Remember that when you’re crying at 2 a.m. wondering why every boy that came into your life was temporary.
Don’t let your past relationships ruin a chance at something great. Your trust has been broken before but when someone new comes along please don’t treat them like they’re the one that broke it to begin with. See the good in people and choose to learn to love again. It’s so hard to give someone your all when you’ve been hurt before but holding back could cause you to regret it for the rest of your life.
I love you. When you think no one else does, I do. I’ll understand when you finally find someone who treats you the way you deserve that our time together will diminish, but that won’t affect our friendship. I’m always here for you; through the highs and the lows, I’ll be your sidekick. But when someone treats you wrong and hurts you I’m not going to let you go back into a toxic relationship. Love tends to alter reality, but that’s what I’m here for; to slap the reality back into you when you’re tempted to text him because you’re lonely.
You deserve happiness and joy. I want nothing more than for you to find someone who lights up your world when you see them. I cannot wait for you to find true love and truly be happy being in love with someone. You’re the best and when some lucky guy realizes that I hope he never lets you go.
“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” - Marcel Proust
