Hey you, how's it going? You're an ugly cryer, so take a few deep breaths, give yourself five more minutes, and then you're going to stop wallowing, and we can talk about this.
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You're sitting in bed freaking out about how you're currently about a quarter way through your senior year of college, and now, more than ever, you're having feelings that you don't have any aspect of your life together.
But you know what, there are literally SO many people in the same exact boat you are. So, let's rewind for a second and think about this.
You're freshly 21 years old, and you've got your whole entire adult life ahead of you. You have two jobs at home, a roof over your head, and somehow, miraculously, finishing your college degree!
So in many aspects, heck yeah, you do have your life together!
This midlife crisis you're having about college, future careers, relationships, even about yourself, is normal and completely 100% okay.
You're allowed to be freaking out about all of this, but you need to freak out a bit less right now, and live in the now before it's all over.
You are going to find a job that you love, that you might even hate, but you will find something. Just remember that it's okay if it takes a few different jobs before you find the one you love. And it's totally okay to not know what you want to do or where you want to do it. Although it is terrifying and incredibly daunting, it will work itself out in the end.
Oh, and the person that you've been dating since high school, or for two years, or that boy you met last week, or that girl your seriously crushing on? They might be the person you're meant the spend the rest of your life, and they totally might not be, but either way it's okay. People come in and out of our lives for whatever reason, and you will only be a better person for the experience.
And let's talk about you for a second.
College is meant to make you a better, more educated person. It's meant to let you grow and learn about your classes, new people, and other worldly things you might've never heard of before. You will be better for all of the things you have yet to experience, and for all of the things you have experienced. All of this is a huge learning experience and you have to remember that you will be better for all of it.
It's said way too much, but it's true that everything happens for a reason, as long as you are willing to believe that it does. You are on a path to things greater than you can imagine, so you might as well enjoy the ride for as long as you can.
Live up these next few months. Live fearlessly, make new friends, put yourself out there - this is your life and you are in control of it.
It's okay to feel like things are out of your control and like things aren't falling into place right now, but they will eventually (so just remember that when you're freaking out about this three days from now all over again).
You are powerful, you are brave, and you can conquer anything put in your way.
Good luck, I'm rooting for you.
xoxo sincerely,
One of your peers who is in the exact same boat as you
