Dear "Friends," if you will,

It's been a while since we last spoke. Like actually spoke. It's hard to know how you are really doing or even for you to know how I am doing, merely through a highly altered and "rose-colored glasses" portrayal of social media.

I see your posts, updates, and major life events; yet I look at these things and feel like I don't even know you as an individual. I see notifications when you like my photos or write "Happy Birthday" on my Facebook wall, but do you really care? Or are you doing these things "just because?"

I must admit that there are days where I see a notification with your name on it and I question as to whether or not to cut you out of my life completely. It may seem rash, but my life is mine and if you're not actively trying to be a part of it, what's the point of you knowing what's going on in my life?

It isn't easy to see that you've moved on in your life without me, especially since we used to be so close; yet at the same time, I have become used to it. I understand that life gets crazy and that the demands of daily life can end up being a lot, but we live in the 21st century where we are blessed by our accessibility to technology. It takes what, a whopping total of thirty seconds to send a text to let someone know you are thinking of them? And there are a great deal of people who are my "friends" that I haven't heard from in years. Maybe it's partially my fault, I'm not excusing myself of any blame, but friendship is a two-way street, you both have to make an effort. And if the effort is one-sided on my part, I'm not exerting my time and energy any longer one you.

It's not that I don't care as to whether you're doing well or not, I do. It's just that I don't have the capacity to invest in someone who doesn't invest in me.

I appreciate the friendship that we had and I've accepted that we won't have the same kind of friendship probably ever again. Yes, it hurt, but I've moved forward, and I hope that you are doing well and can eventually do the same.

Sincerely,

Your former friend who still cares, but has moved on.