- You don't have to date a frat boy or an athlete. There are other attractive/nice boys on campus as well. Without a doubt, the BMOCs are the most desirable to chase after on any college campus. Just ask any girl you meet. Not only do they dress well, but they also carry a certain image. There is something intriguing and sexy about having a “thing” going with a fraternal man. It is something different and exotic. The same rules apply for a jock. Nonetheless, there are so many guys on campus, Greek and non-Greek. Make sure to give them a chance as well. In most cases, being a part of a group or team doesn’t magically give them the power to be premium dating material. Maximize your options.
- Sometimes being forward is a good thing...sometimes it’s not. Some guys appreciate some blatant effort when it comes to flirting, while others find it too obvious and promiscuous. Honestly, you do you. The right guy will wholeheartedly appreciate your own approach.
- You don’t need to feel obligated to obtain a significant other during your freshman year. Freshman year is centered around you. This is your time to figure out what you are doing with your life and what you need to do to get where you need to go. In most cases, having a guy holding you back is not ideal. Yes, there are some cases that are meant to be, but if you find yourself dating just to date someone, you are not making a wise move.
- Love happens in the most unexpected moments. You are not warned when “Mr. Right” walks through the door. It could be at this very moment for all you know. That being said, do not be waiting every moment of your life for it to happen. You will be waiting a long time. Real love finds its way around on its own time.
- Don’t push it. Patience is vital. A guy might not like you, and he may have a list of reasons why that are completely unrelated to you as a person. Do not take it personally, and do not force a relationship that is not meant to be. You will find yourself more unhappy than you were when you were single.
- Boys will be boys. Ladies, do not expect too much of men in this stage of life. I am not saying that they all do not have their heads on straight, but an astounding number of young men at the college age are not all together in the maturity department. Thus, let’s not get our hopes up too high. When the perfect guy comes along, however, he will surpass them all. That is when you will know it is right.
- Don’t set up expectations too soon. You will know when it is time to give him your highly detailed list of expectations, but do not push it on him until you know that you are for sure an established couple.
- Don’t even think about hitting up your ex. There’s a reason you ousted him. He is in the past. Bury the hatchet and move forward. It is the healthiest choice you will ever make.
- Put your gal pals before the dudes. You have heard the old saying, “Chicks before …” Your main squad will be there through thick and thin. Do not sacrifice valuable friendships in order to get with “the man of your dreams”. At this point in your life, he is probably not worth the time or the effort. Be there for the ones who matter the most.
- “Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first.” An intuitive fictional character by the name of Carrie Bradshaw gave us this truthful quote. If we do not love ourselves, we will not be able to understand the reason why someone else loves us. Focus on building up your own confidence and repertoire of valuable experiences. Go out and show your greatness off to the world. In the end, men chase after the women who cherish the inherent beauty of their own selves.
RelationshipsOct 17, 2016
An Honest Guide To Dating College Men
Ten tips for the self-assured single woman
43